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Submitted by purpledaisies on Fri, 02/01/2013 - 2:37pm

She deleted my post from her blog as she thought I was mean. I have never been mean to anyone. I pretty much told her that it boiled down to the fact that most were not agreeing on her blog yesterday which is why she git so upset and saying everyone is mean. Most were trying to help her and she didn't want to hear it.

Hon if you are here for advise and support you need to realize that sometimes you could be wrong and adjust your life as such. That is all these wonderful ladies were trying to tell you.

There is no need to think everyone here is mean just because they didn't agree and they did it in a very nice way. I didn't see anyone that was mean to you yesterday. Sorry if it offended you but it should be food for thought. If most were telling you one thing and didn't agree then I would Thu.k it could have been wrong of the way it was handled and I would change it. But that's me.

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Submitted by purpledaisies on Fri, 02/01/2013 - 2:47pm

I think it upset some as I'm never mean and always as honest as I can be. So it raised a lot for about what she wants I.e. for everyone to agree with her.

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Submitted by amber3902 on Fri, 02/01/2013 - 2:54pm

I notice when someone posts on here and someone tells them something they don't want to hear, the OP gets all upset, and accuses that poster of being rude and judgmental.

I don't know what you said to mypetviola, but I'm kind of tired of people claiming that someone is rude to them when they merely offer an opinion that's different from their own.

Disagreeing with someone is not being rude. Having a perspective different from the OP's is not being rude.

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Submitted by purpledaisies on Fri, 02/01/2013 - 2:58pm

Thank you. She started another blog about it last night after she deleted the one she asked for support on. Ok well. All I said to her was they need to keep the kids out of that mess. The kids shouldn't get to dictate the visitation period. And that I thought the mom handled it the best she could while her kid was throwing a fit. That is what most of those ladies said. How that was mean I don't know.

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Submitted by Shaman29 on Fri, 02/01/2013 - 3:01pm

She deleted mine for the same reason. I was being honest and I had hope to save her from having her actions misinterpreted.

I now know she is only looking for validation of her feelings and actions. That's fine. I'll just bypass her blogs going forward.

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Submitted by BSgoinon on Fri, 02/01/2013 - 3:47pm

You are all big fat meanie heads. }:)

Just kidding. I missed the whole blog yesterday, so I have no idea what you are talking about, but I did want to say that Neither Purple nor Shaman have the reputation of being harsh around here. So this kind of surprizes me.

It's Friday ladies... can't we all just get along Smile I need a DRINK!

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Submitted by Shaman29 on Fri, 02/01/2013 - 3:55pm

I need a drink too. I'm meeting a friend after work for wine and dinner.

It would be great, except she's dealing with her own being a step issues. She and DF were recently engaged and the BM and stbSD have turned up the crazy and bad behavior. Everyone got along just fine until he put a ring on my friends' finger. Then it all went to hell.

It may be a three glass night for me. }:)

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Submitted by purpledaisies on Fri, 02/01/2013 - 3:55pm

No biggie bullet. I was pointing out that I have never been accused of being mean and she deleted my post. I was honest with her and since I didn't agree she thinks I'm mean and judgmental. That says a lot to me that all she wants is for everyone to agree or we are mean

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Submitted by hismineandours on Fri, 02/01/2013 - 4:16pm

I know at one point someone accused me of saying something that I did not say in one of my posts. I stopped coming here for awhile because she was so rageful toward me and what she decided I was saying that it did kind of spoil my experience. It was strange as I never said nor even implied what she thought I was saying and I certainly did not feel the way she said I did, but she just kept insisting. I finally decided she just had some deep seated issues and that something I said triggered that. In order to justify her huge emotional reaction she NEEDED my post to say things that it wasnt. Oh, well. You cant fix everyone. I dont believe she comes here anymore. You cant give what anyone says here tooo much weight.

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Submitted by notagain2012 on Fri, 02/01/2013 - 5:24pm

It happens a lot when people don't want to hear something. I have had a few posts deleted as well. I wouldn't let it bother you...

Eventually , if the op deletes enough, people will stop commenting, and op won't get the support they are looking for, and advice, esp if it isn't what they want to hear.

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Submitted by bi on Fri, 02/01/2013 - 5:28pm

i've never deleted a differing opinion, but i have deleted downright rude and nasty. that has only been one person, and they no longer comment on my blogs. }:)