Teenage Skid
The time has arrived that the 15 yo teenage boy skid knows it all. Husband complains about his kid not talking to him or wanting to spend any time with him. Skid is just glued to his phone. And........ I'm just over here like yeah ... the skid hasn't had a conversation with me besides answering a direct question with yes/no/idk for years and years.
On one hand this is normal teenage behavior but on the other I'm being petty and sitting back thinking yeah welcome to how I've been treated since Marboro Milly (MIL) exiled us. The skid has always treated the exile as my fault in an unspoken fashion by ignoring my existence in general and avoiding me in every possible way. (Skid will answer if I ask a direct question but very limited and will not elaborate in any way on his own). Right before the exile I disengaged for my own sanity which sent Marboro Milly off the edge and all that.
Anybody else sit back and watch the teenage years happen to the spouse and parent of skid? I'm just tired of giving advice and nobody gives a shit. I've never been a fan of the skid, just no connection and was always the 3rd wheel and never considered or thought of for any birthdays or holidays. I'm just the grocery store, chef and maid lol.
Honestly I'm at that era of starting to take care of myself instead of sacrificing my emotions, care or physical well being for this skid who doesn't give a shit. Pretty sure if I died the skid wouldn't even bat an eye and would just wonder who was picking him up from the sports practices. This community for sure has been a life saver as a stepparent.
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"Honestly I'm at that era of
"Honestly I'm at that era of starting to take care of myself instead of sacrificing my emotions, care or physical well being..."
Amen! Keep it up.
Snatch the phones.
Snatch the phones.
I let these kids know off the top that as long as they pay $0 bills those phones, devices, etc are MINE and I will take them at a moments notice
But yeah with some of these skids and kids ... the less energy I invest in ungrateful people the better for my mental state
I wanted limits
I wanted limits on the phone but unbelievably I got push back from the SO. At first it was yeah these will be the limits and then next thing I know the SS does what he wants with the phone at any and all hours of the day/night. He does get himself up in the morning though but still. I think boundaries would have been beneficial but guess I'm the only one. I don't understand the reluctance but on one hand I do. The SO has been treating the SS as a friend and now the SS has his teenage friends and SO/dad isn't fun or important. I just don't understand the reluctance of SO to parent and as the SM I can no longer be the only parent to a kid that isn't mine.
My SS 16 is a turd. My SD
My SS 16 is a turd. My SD almost 18 has become a horrible person. They are very unlikeable people. My SO and his entire family has just finally realized this. SO is still trying to hold on by a thread . It is way more then just being teenagers .
I'm wondering
I'm wondering if this will be the turn out here too. Ungrateful SS who doesn't realize how good he has it. I think SS is at that attention era where he is getting attention from others at school, gf, sports and doesn't care about SO/dad. It's sad on one end but the other that's exactly how I've been treated for nearly 10 years so why should I feel sorry. It's a reality that SO created
My SO let his kids and ex
My SO let his kids and ex walk all over him for years. Doing whatever they asked. No chores, no consequences, never told no. He felt he had to do it or the kids wouldn't want to see him. Fear and guilt. All he is at this point is a check for BM and sports and a ride for SS. So very sad.
I think it's turned into do
I think it's turned into do this for me relationship between SO & SS. SS thinks everybody is going to just cater to his schedule be damned if we have to work etc. Ungrateful. Can't wait until this SS leaves and hopefully never returns!
SS here is the same way. He
SS here is the same way. He doesn't even stay with us but still wants everything dropped for him. Just yesterday he asked SO to pick him up from some football meeting. SO has been having alot of issues with work but still said yes, like I said hanging on by a thread so will do whatever, he got stuck in traffic and SS was sending nasty texts saying he told him he needed him there at whatever time it was where was he. SO text back was all apologizing and stuff. It should have just been no I can't get you. It is ridiculous what lengths these dads will go to and get not even an ounce of respect. Like you I am waiting for the day SS is completely out of our lives. There is zero joy from him.