Nope I don't post about Little Idiot (SD24.5). Nor do I like anything she posts or comment on her posts. I can only stomach so many compliment-fishing selfies per week anyway. DH's family probably thinks it's odd but idgaf. They don't pay my bills or do a darn thing for me anyway so I really don't care what they think. They also don't know the truth of everything that went on with LI or how she really is because they don't have to deal with her in the capacity that we do. They can compliment her and give all the fake "miss you-love you"s they want. I don't love her or miss her and they wouldn't either if the fallout from her poor decisions landed in their lap and they were the ones cleaning up the mess.

Back a few years, when I was still the activities director and skidyounger was still a minor who was fun to do things with, I would post things, and one niece on DH side would comment "where is skidolder?"

Now this person is very active on social media, but never likes my stuff unless it has "her" family. Never comments, unless its to "call me out" for not posting Skidolder. Skidolder (feral forger) and I are no contact. And Feral Forger has been actively working against myself and husband.

This is the same niece who invited feral forger to an event RIGHT after drama on family chat. And then asked "oh is ok that I invited her?"

Just drama. Ignore, delete.

In the early years, I shared a few pics but as the toxic behaviors grew and morphed, I quickly cut off social media connection with all of DH's kids. I'm not their mom. We have zero relationship. Why would I even want to share pics of people I barely know? 
 

add in, I rarely post anything personal these days. My friends/family all migrated to text groups for sharing. I have a Facebook mainly for my art and dog rescue work. 

My own mother does this shit, it’s why I stopped posting on one social media and just started sending a group text to our family.  That way when she makes her shitty comments it’s only seen by family.  I am on a platform she doesn’t like and can’t navigate so I post there.  When my BD18 went to prom this year I sent photos to the family text and rather than respond “wow she looks pretty.”, I got “wow look at her boobs, they look huge.”  Yeah, thankfully BD18 wasn’t on that thread.   It’s crazy to me the older my parents get the less of a filter and nastier they become.

Do a custom post and exclude step-MIL. 

No I post whatever tf I want on MY page. If anyone doesn't like it they can close their pie hole and click away .... most of the messy meddling annoying nosey people are in my restricted list or block list  

Now a lot of these elders just getting onto social media and haven't learned proper etiquette (and some of them just have no chill)

If they cannot handle what you post without feeling compelled to correct or challenge you then ..... put them on the restricted or blocked list

As for posting those skid on my social media? No. Since they're minors that I can't make legal decision on behalf of. However I did include them in a group picture I sent on a family holiday card. 

If there were any people that gave me issues I would block them. In your case I would block her or else make it so she can't view anything. 

I've never posted about my sd, or any photos of her. Originally it was to avoid antagonizing her mother, but now it is also a factor of respecting her privacy (as a 16 year old) and the fact that I am not her parent so I don't really feel I should be posting about her on social media.
I also don't post about my bio kids. 

Our family life occurred mostly pre-social media including FB.  A HBD wish on FB, a rare update. Nothing more.

Sounds like fun.

Just reply... "I thought they were with you.. "

On socia media just to keep pre informed.

Ask DH, your son where he was.  Ask him if golf is more important that family time.   DS is 3 only once.  Then ask MIL why she didn't invite you and your family on a Halloween activity.  Like a all expenses paid by MIL on a 3 day trip someplace. 

The comment your SMIL demonstrates a prime example of one reason why I can take or leave Social Media at times.It ( falsely gives some  people the impression that they can feel free to stick their nose in your business like that.  It would drive me bonkers.

Personally, I would have asked MIL what would be stopping her from planning some activites with SD and entertain her if she feels that worried about you not doing enough for her. Just bring that ball back in her court!  Then I would take advantage of those custom privacy settings to control what audience you wish to allow to see your posts. Your sanity will thank you later. 

God Forbid you should want to make memories with your own child on your time  without feeling pressured  into putting on one big production with DH, SD as you pretend to be big one big happy family just to appease others and keep up some image. 

As far as Facebook and the Skidmark, I presently wouldn't be posting one single blurb about SD even if  she Hadn't decided to block me recently. I hope that never changes as its honestly for the best and I see it as a blessing. 

The reason beiing a few years back, I ended up seriously regretting my choice to being FB friends with SD29. That was due to her coming off like she was granted the green light to expect 24/7 access to me, to my free time and attention  JUST for us  being connected through Facebook. It started to feel smothering to me so  It got old and annoying  real fast . Thats when  I pulled the plug by using those Customized Privacy features I mentioned. I decided to go that route after only a week. LOL, so my stint with her on social media was very short lived at best.

.  Plus, I was already annoyed with her constant Self Pitying posts whining about being bored and just complaining about everything every damn day on the  Book looking for attention. . Hence the other thing about FB that gets on my nerves. People just bitching about petty problems in their lives for that purpose instead of actually doing anything constructive.  

Even in the best of times, I cannot recall the last time I ever posted much at all about SD, even  once she had her own kids. From what I can tell. DH hardly plasters his FB with anything that revolves around them either when he decides to post anything at all. 

Honestly. I know this might sound terrible, but DH actually shares more about our pets. His profile is off our dog  currently.  How much you want to bet that it drives SD nuts when she sees that its not a huge blown up pic of HER instead? 

. I know to others, including whatever family  members he is friends with, it has to seem really cold, uncaring and just plain strange or unheard of.  I know it has to make us look like horrible people. Maybe we are but I have grown to stop giving a hoot about that too. Quite frankly, I no longer feel there is anything left to have to prove to anyone, especially with the way things stand between SD and I? What is the point of even pretending ..even on social media where people front  constantly ? 

You can create a default audience setting for all of your posts that excludes her so she can't see (and comment on) whatever you choose. I had "all friends" as my default and then created "friends except [skids]" as an alternate audience setting in order to maintain some pretense of a relationship with the skids (not to ruffle feathers) but eventually grew tired of the facade and eventually unfriended and blocked them altogether. 

I do nothing of importance on FB.  Nothing political, nothing personal, nothing regarding the news, nothing on religion.  I find that when I have done that, there are an interesting number of people who respond with attacks. So, I just don't do it at all.  I will not get into discussions under my name anywhere.  I will on anonymous formats but not on public formats with my name.

I belong to a few groups from schools.

Primarily I use social media to maintain contact with people.