The End?
HAHA, no, not really. I loved that caption in Flash Gordon, but dont love that I am able to use it in my own story.
SDNow18 Princess Powersulk, turned 18 and then the following day went through the graduation ceremony. As Husband and I were toasting the end to child support going to BM, and the end of all the potential for drama, he let slip that Toxic Troll reminded him that he missed a payment a few months ago, and that she is expecting it this new month sometime.
So, ALMOST the end of that little saga, while husband scurries through his payment records. He thinks it was during tax time when we had both income and property taxes due and she was SO understanding...
Meanwhile, the ceremony was very nice, I took a vacation day to sleep in, relax and started watching a new series Ive become addicted to called Killing Eve. Husband got to leave work early and we met up with his family at the venue. It was at the local fairgrounds, and we (me and fam) took up the entire row. We met up with SD18PPS and took our photos. Toxic Troll waited at the other gate while we did out thing and then I overheard SDPPS tell husband that she would see us on Monday.
So, Im just going to wait things out. See what husband and SD figure out with respects to her getting a job and getting her license, etc.
Ive got my own thing going on and shes not bothering me, so we shall see where she goes from here, considering that she doesnt even have a government issued photo ID. (how I know this is a little side story...has to do with passport...)
Meanwhile, we went out for a meal with family then out dancing with friends.
The celebration will continue this weekend 
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Hoping for the best
I'm hoping for the best for you, Clove. But you know from my saga that there's no magic age..... At least the legally-required child support is over. And, she did graduate, yah!
Yep
No magic age.
But Im hoping the excuses will go away. "I just want her to graduate...once she graduates...after she graduates..." and the expectations for her to get her head out of her a$$ will now be at the forefront. No mooching adults, thank you. I will just step aside and watch the show. No more special dispensation and no more flagrant abuses by Toxic Troll. Shes been de-fanged.
He will just come up with
He will just come up with some other excuse.
I think he really doesnt want to
I believe him when he tells me he 's car. I believe him when he tells me that he dislikes working on TT car.
Now we have to get PPS driving, so shes not depending on TT anymore.
He will continue to come up
He will continue to come up with excuses for your SD. Instead of "after she graduates", it will be, "after she gets her DL, after she gets a job, once she saves some money", blah, blah, blah. He will justify why she can't get her head out of her ass, just yet.
And, I get it, 18 is not some magic age that makes us all grown up but her parents have done nothing to help her grow up. So, the excuses will just go on and on, instead of him taking any responsibility or action.
Not a magic age
But a milestone nonetheless. No more "but shes just a chiiiiiiild". Husband promised me that he would have expectations of her.
So, I pop the corn, melt the butter, kick back and watch what happens.
Let us know
Let us know how it works out. I hope SD doesn't end up overstaying her welcome at your house. We all know how exhausting that can be.
Who knows?
Maybe she will start cleaning her trashed out room? We shall see!
I get a nice weekend without any skid drama. The backyards looking great.
Friendly reminder no more
Friendly reminder no more work on TT's car either. I would die on that hill IMO.
No more car-b!tch
We spoke of that and toasted that too. Husband is no longer Toxic Trolls car b!tch. He doesnt like me saying that, but "oh well, then dont be one!"
Congratuations to surviving
Congratuations to surviving until this point. Here is hoping to a smooth transition into adulthood for PPS and less drama in your home. Hopefully you are through the worst of it. There may still be some bumps up ahead until a new status quo is established.
I forget, does she have post HS plans?
Not really
Shed been talking about getting a job, and getting her license and getting whatever "after she catches up on her work for graduation".
However, she failed her permitting test, and I dont know - dont you need to learn to drive before getting the license?
Im going to get her at least a photo ID, if she can step up to the plate and make the reserveration at the DMV.
It never ends
They will try to sucker you in. It's better than that dirty three letter word. J O B. Hope your DH finds his bal... and stop the craziness. This is the hill to died on. He has no reason to be TT bitch anymore, if he actually had a good reason before. Keep a watch on tge money and time. T.T. will be fishing him
No more car b!tch
IM watching with Eagle eyes. And Feral Forger and her wh@re comment sealed our door forever against her ever moving in. So when PPS clears her schtuff out of the room I can move stuff in for storage and organization. Keeping the bed, selling or getting rid of the iron frame. yep, plans a plenty!
The beginning! Of post CO life.
I am more a "beginning" guy than an end guy.
Congratulations for getting to the end of the CO CLove. I hope DH has learned enough to not wallow in the shit that his two TT spawned daughters make of their lives.
I think it is time for DH to let SD18PPS to figure out her DL, job, etc.... When she asked for money, DH needs to give her a print out of the spreadsheet showing the countless $Thousands he has payed to TT and tell 18PPS to ask mommy for money. He has paid above and beyond.
Easy for me to take this position. My SS never has asked for a Cent. Not as a minor, nor after aging out from under the CO. Though in the interest for full disclosure, we did force feed SS to get his DL after he turned 18. In all likelihood, he would have delayed for many years before doing it.
Thanks Rags
My present to her was "Im not giving you ca$h but Im going to pay for you to get a passport." Come to find out that she doesnt have ANY photo ID!!!!! So I told her that would be part of the "package" Im giving her. It will require her to make an appointment with DMV, organize a time with me, and then follow through on getting the forms filled out so I can do this thing. BTW government issued photo IDs are REQUIRED for getting jobs. Real jobs. Fingers crossed, its not over yet.
I love this creative "gifting
I love this creative "gifting" from you. Level 10 step parent move there.
As Husband and I were
How I would respond: Two words = Girl BYE!!!
She could try to sue but highly unlikely anything will come out of it since he's past 18 now.
Her dumb a$$ should have said something immediately not months later. She's probably lying and in shock her gravy train is over and grasping at straws so to speak.
She can kick rocks barefoot!
*consult a licensed attorney though
I told him the same thing
But hes afraid of "what she could do to him", after all these years.
He will probably hopefully check his payment records, for the time period, and find that he did miss a payment, and hand her the money next paycheck.
By this time, Ive stopped caring that much. Its not like hes going to use the money to take me anywhere.