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Happy Valentine's Day!!

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Submitted by la_dulce_vida on Wed, 02/14/2024 - 8:48am

I hope everyone has a wonderful day today. I hope you are loved. I hope you feel loved by your partner, if you have one. I hope you feel the love of your children, if you have them. I hope your furry babies look at you with love (like mine do) and not only when they are hungry and want you to feed them or pet them. LOL I hope your friends are as warm and loving as mine are.

Yes, it's a romantic holiday, but love is love and I hope you're surrounded by it. And most of all, I hope you love yourself. It's not easy sometimes, but it's totally worth it.

I have had twinges of sadness about being single on Valentine's Day, but then I remember that my XBF was low effort and never really did much of anything for Valentine's Day. There were no cards, no gifts, no flowers, no candy. The first Valentine's Day, I took MYSELF to a solo retreat and bought myself flowers, wine, dinner and treats. I took faith based retreat books on the topic of love. I indulged myself.

On the last day, my XBF met me for a day in DC where we had lunch, attended a lecture on love and then hit some breweries. He gave me a rose bush he bought at Costco. That was the last "to-do" we did for Valentine's Day - all planned by ME. The following 4 Valentine's Days were just a meal, cooked together at home. I can't remember anything else because he told me early on that he wasn't a "Hallmark" kinda guy.

I firmly believe that if you are loved properly all year long, Valentine's Day doesn't take on a great deal of significance. For those who are not loved or treated properly, it can be heartbreaking and soul crushing when your partner can't make any effort.

Just look for all the love around you. My DS33 and DD30 were planning to take me out for Valentine's Day on Friday night, but I have plans with my friends. Still, how sweet!! Such kind, loving people that I gave birth to. I am a lucky woman.

My DD30 is visiting her grandma today for lunch and has agreed to pick up my all time favorite dinner from an Italian restaurant there - about an hour away. Such kindness. I have so many people in my life willing to make the effort, I never want to settle for another low effort partner again.

Happy Valentine's Day to all of you. You are loved!!

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Submitted by ESMOD on Wed, 02/14/2024 - 9:24am

Happy Valentine's day to you.  I agree that the fulfilling relationships in our lives don't always have to be romantic ones!

I also tend to find that people that 'don't believe in hallmark" are more lazy relationship people.. because in the end... it doesn't matter if THEY are hallmark people.. if their partner sees value in it?  wouldn't they do more?

I mean.. when my DH and I first started dating.. he said similar.. but eventually I made a point to tell him that while it didn't have to be huge.. or wildly expensive.. it was nice to be recognized.

Guess who has a bouquet of roses from Food Lion on her desk at home now.. me.  not super expensive.. but he is making an effort.. not because HE values the day.. but because he knows it makes me happy.

It's kind of the if he wanted to he would concept.  I  mean.. yeah.. if we don't have money to keep t he lights on.. or if I truly hated flowers. but I think we often let people off the hook too easily because we women try to not take up too much space.. try not to be too demanding.. etc.. 

But.. again.. happy valentine's to YOU.. enjoy all the wonderful things happening for you now!

 

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Submitted by Rags on Wed, 02/14/2024 - 12:44pm

Thank you so much.  I am thrilled for you on how much great stuff you are experiencing in your life.

Happy Valentines Day!

Give rose

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Submitted by classyNJ on Wed, 02/14/2024 - 1:47pm

You are so right!  It's about love for everyone.  This has always been one of my favorite holidays.  I am fully decorated and happily wishing everyone I speak to a Happy Valentines Day :) 

My girlfriend just left after making her rounds of dropping our friend group personalized little swag bags.  I made cupcakes for the SS's and their gals.  My mother is not a fan of the day, but I did drop off some inexpensive shoprite flowers.  My DH and I exchanged cards and chocolate this morning and tonight I am making him my famous meatloaf that he loves.  Simple but he loves it and the kitty will get some of his treats. 

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Submitted by CLove on Wed, 02/14/2024 - 2:47pm

Its a "school night" for us both, and we live 30 mins from anything fun.

Husband bought me a pretty orchid plant a few days ago and brought home a yellow rose and pink carnation bouquet last night. So all THOSE boxes are checked.

As to doing fun things tonight - hes probably going to be too tired and if I want to go out he will grump out the whole evening so its probably going to be a nice dinner at home in pjs. I do want to go out dancing friday night.

Sadly I have no kiddos. My fur kids love me all year round.

Happy Valentines day to you and everyone Biggrin

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Submitted by BethAnne on Wed, 02/14/2024 - 4:16pm

You're so sweet. Happy Valentine's Day!

My husband and and I are in a bit of a strange place these days with an elderly relative (potentially) on her death bed, family drama surrounding that and my husband suffering from some medical issues that we haven't found the source of yet. 

So we're not going all out this year, but we're going to exchange small gifts today and got a babysitter booked for Saturday night to get out of the house without the kids. 

I signed up for a weight loss/exercise group and we have a class tonight on nutrition that I'm attending. So that's a bit of love for myself to get fitter and healthier.