Sounds wonderful! So healthy in every way. You should give workshops--no, lead outings--for recently single women! (If you make this a business, I'll do the marketing for a cut!) *yes3*
Good for you living a great life. You sound like an incredible person and deserve it.
I used to bike solo a lot but then DH and I moved in together. I stopped biking as much because the roads in this area are so narrow and unsafe with some a*hole, redneck drivers that intentionally try to run bikes off the road. Now I mostly hike but I'd love to find a group of women to start biking with.
I hear you on wishing the kids would move out. Fortunately my 2 bios (18&22) are generally respectful and super appreciative, especially my 22 y/o. She moved out for a short while and learned a lot of life lessons that taught her to place value on what she has and be grateful.
I think the younger generations are just much bigger wimps, whiners and use intentional incompetence when convenient far more than Gen X and older. "Don't complain" was a message I heard a lot as a child.
Between their enrichment activities and after school extracurriculars, kids don't hear "Stop complaining" or "figure it out," enough anymore.
SD's thought DH sole purpose was to enrich their lives and provide activities and entertainment. The idea of helping out with chores or anything was completely out of the question.
My kid's BioDad was a permissive yet negligent parent so I had my hands full working to compensate for loser BioD to give my kids tools and teach them all the things they need to know to be self-sufficient adults.
DH and I will travel a lot more once the kids move out and maybe sell our house. We also have a family dog that is getting up in years and so we stay put for him as well.
I am just thank-ful that SD's prefer running to BM dearest to kiss & tell how mean we are not catering to their every whim, we don't allow them to rule our house as sister wives and of course they think DH should spend "one on one," "quality time" with only them or they are being mistreated. Our "terrible" treatment of them prevents them from living in our house. BM lets them be mini-spouses in her life and have an equal say. Of course none of them can agree and they're all insecure and petty so it turns into a big cat fight.
When SK's were kids/teens BM would dump them on our door-step during her custodial time and tell DH "You're on!" On paper she had primary custody but in reality she had them less than half time. She just wanted that CS paycheck but couldn't be bothered to have her weekends or holidays interrupted by her own brats. Well ... guess who's "On" now. Lol. Not me! I hope she is enjoying the monsters she created, especially YSD25 that won't move out of her house and likes to start fights and hit.
Anyhoo ... I am gearing up for dealing with SD being in and out of my house for the next 2 weeks. I can't wait until she goes back to whereever she came from and stops turning up here so often. Surely there is some boyfriend out there that can occupy her time?
I am happy for you. I think as we age women find that we can live with or without a man. Lol And a lot of times living without one + baggage is actually so much easier.
You are such a success story! Thanks for keeping us updated. I think it is a great sign that there were no real emotions when you went by his house. You have come such a long way, and you have done it the way that works best for you. I'm so happy you are doing so well!
I like having my whole bed to myself. I like not having to consider anyone else when I make decisions
Girl I felt this in my soul.....
Bed never felt so comfortable without a man snatching all the covers, revenge farting in the bed "on accident", talking all loudly to his clingy crumbsnatchers all hours of the day and night, trama dumping on me as I'm trying to drift off to sleep, expecting seggs just because we live together, turning on lights and flashlights when he comes in the room late at and it's dark .... just overall disturbing my peace to live them
Though I never admit that I steal the covers. She does! The proof is that I wake up withouth them. She claims she has to get them back and roll up in them to make sure she has some. I am suspicious of this claim. The facts do not align.
Cover snatching covered.
As for revenge farting in bed, nope. We both will go to the bathroom to do a pressure equalization. We also use separate bathrooms for toilet activities. In homes we have owned that had toilet doors we use the same toilet. That way it is not the sharing bathroom space while one or the other is taking care of business.
This guy was such a POS. So glad you purged him from your world.
I 'm so happy for you and so proud of your investment in your own journey. I get the not feeling it on partnering when you are in a good place.
For some reason people often partner when they are searching for something that they have to find within themselves. Not sure if that is a double blind studied thing, but it seems to be true.
When we are good, thriving, and healthy, that seems to be when a person of true quality arrives in our lives. That person is far better than previous SOs because they meet our quality life with a life of quality of their own. They have the best qualities of those in our past, none of the flaws, and bring their own positives to the table. While no one is perfect and everyone has flaws, the upgrades seem to be far more able to evolve both individually and with a partner in an unfolding life together.
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Sounds wonderful! So healthy
Sounds wonderful! So healthy in every way. You should give workshops--no, lead outings--for recently single women! (If you make this a business, I'll do the marketing for a cut!) *yes3*
Good for you living a great
Good for you living a great life. You sound like an incredible person and deserve it.
I used to bike solo a lot but then DH and I moved in together. I stopped biking as much because the roads in this area are so narrow and unsafe with some a*hole, redneck drivers that intentionally try to run bikes off the road. Now I mostly hike but I'd love to find a group of women to start biking with.
I hear you on wishing the kids would move out. Fortunately my 2 bios (18&22) are generally respectful and super appreciative, especially my 22 y/o. She moved out for a short while and learned a lot of life lessons that taught her to place value on what she has and be grateful.
I think the younger generations are just much bigger wimps, whiners and use intentional incompetence when convenient far more than Gen X and older. "Don't complain" was a message I heard a lot as a child.
Between their enrichment activities and after school extracurriculars, kids don't hear "Stop complaining" or "figure it out," enough anymore.
SD's thought DH sole purpose was to enrich their lives and provide activities and entertainment. The idea of helping out with chores or anything was completely out of the question.
My kid's BioDad was a permissive yet negligent parent so I had my hands full working to compensate for loser BioD to give my kids tools and teach them all the things they need to know to be self-sufficient adults.
DH and I will travel a lot more once the kids move out and maybe sell our house. We also have a family dog that is getting up in years and so we stay put for him as well.
I am just thank-ful that SD's prefer running to BM dearest to kiss & tell how mean we are not catering to their every whim, we don't allow them to rule our house as sister wives and of course they think DH should spend "one on one," "quality time" with only them or they are being mistreated. Our "terrible" treatment of them prevents them from living in our house. BM lets them be mini-spouses in her life and have an equal say. Of course none of them can agree and they're all insecure and petty so it turns into a big cat fight.
When SK's were kids/teens BM would dump them on our door-step during her custodial time and tell DH "You're on!" On paper she had primary custody but in reality she had them less than half time. She just wanted that CS paycheck but couldn't be bothered to have her weekends or holidays interrupted by her own brats. Well ... guess who's "On" now. Lol. Not me! I hope she is enjoying the monsters she created, especially YSD25 that won't move out of her house and likes to start fights and hit.
Anyhoo ... I am gearing up for dealing with SD being in and out of my house for the next 2 weeks. I can't wait until she goes back to whereever she came from and stops turning up here so often. Surely there is some boyfriend out there that can occupy her time?
I am happy for you. I think as we age women find that we can live with or without a man. Lol And a lot of times living without one + baggage is actually so much easier.
You are such a success story! Thanks for keeping us updated.
You are such a success story! Thanks for keeping us updated. I think it is a great sign that there were no real emotions when you went by his house. You have come such a long way, and you have done it the way that works best for you. I'm so happy you are doing so well!
I like having my whole bed to
Girl I felt this in my soul.....
Bed never felt so comfortable without a man snatching all the covers, revenge farting in the bed "on accident", talking all loudly to his clingy crumbsnatchers all hours of the day and night, trama dumping on me as I'm trying to drift off to sleep, expecting seggs just because we live together, turning on lights and flashlights when he comes in the room late at and it's dark .... just overall disturbing my peace to live them
Hey! Easy now with the cover snatching man bashing.
I resemble that remark.
Though I never admit that I steal the covers. She does! The proof is that I wake up withouth them. She claims she has to get them back and roll up in them to make sure she has some. I am suspicious of this claim. The facts do not align.
Cover snatching covered.
As for revenge farting in bed, nope. We both will go to the bathroom to do a pressure equalization. We also use separate bathrooms for toilet activities. In homes we have owned that had toilet doors we use the same toilet. That way it is not the sharing bathroom space while one or the other is taking care of business.
This guy was such a POS. So glad you purged him from your world.
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I 'm so happy for you and so proud of your investment in your own journey. I get the not feeling it on partnering when you are in a good place.
For some reason people often partner when they are searching for something that they have to find within themselves. Not sure if that is a double blind studied thing, but it seems to be true.
When we are good, thriving, and healthy, that seems to be when a person of true quality arrives in our lives. That person is far better than previous SOs because they meet our quality life with a life of quality of their own. They have the best qualities of those in our past, none of the flaws, and bring their own positives to the table. While no one is perfect and everyone has flaws, the upgrades seem to be far more able to evolve both individually and with a partner in an unfolding life together.
Enjoy your life. Celebrate you.
Thank you for being such an inspiration.