Skids came by us yesterday. SD14 sat us down and told us that she is having suicidal thoughts, again (she is on meds and goes to counseling)- this is always triggered by issues with/lack of friends at school. Which is frustrating, because SD is a cute girl, charasmatic, but she also says things that alienate people and is in this constant cycle of making a friend, alienating them, rinse, repeat. Most recently she had a good friend from work, and apparently this girl sent a pic of herself in a dress to SD to get her opinion and SD told her she needed a bigger size (this girl is kind of big), the friend took it as SD saying she was fat, an argument ensued, friendship ended. 

SD said she had a method of suicide in place, but that her counselor hadn't made her tell her what it was, Crazy didn't make her tell her what it was, and she asked us not to make her tell us. Which, what?? DH immediately said, no you're telling us, and dragged it out of her. The method? Jumping off the roof. The 9' porch roof outside her bedroom window. DH said "that is the stupidest plan I've ever heard of", and we went on to explain why that wouldn't work. I mean, we don't want her to try it and end up breaking legs and arms. DH is going to contact the psychologist to get her meds changed. We talked about all of the things she has to look forward to, and SD is generally a happy kid. She has situational depression when it comes to lack of friendships. By the end of the conversation we were teasing her about jumping off the roof and I told her if she did it we would leave her out there for a few hours with her broken ankle just so everyone could drive by and she could be embarassed about how bad of an idea it was. She was laughing and chattering and in a completely different place than when we started the conversation, although obviously it isn't just "fixed". 

Then DH made SS17 come down to yell at him about his crappy grades, and also because SS found out he didn't get into the College in our state where he has been taking college classes (as a Sr. in high school- they are all free college credits). He had made it seem like it wasn't his 1st choice of college anyway, but now he is SUPER pouty, even though he had given up on trying in his high school classes months ago, and I'm sure this college checked his grades and saw how crappy they are before they rejected him, so he can only blame himself. SS sleeps at every opportunity and doesn't study, yet expects to get into every college and be offered # also. SS is taking 1 last class at the college which was supposed to start yesterday, but he told DH he Didn't go..... SS said he has given up, no college at all. DH was like, are you f'ng kidding me??? All because you are pouty that you didn't get in to this one?? SS got free rides to 2 colleges in our state and scholarships to 4 others out of state so far. I mean come on. He is not even the best student, but only because he is lazy. DH told him he can cry and pout tonight if he wanted but after that he was done, and we were going to compare the colleges he DID get into and pick one, because he's not going to waste this opportunity because he is butt hurt. 

I reminded them about the time we were initially talking about colleges and SS made the comment that he was "definitely getting into this college" (that he got rejected from), and he was just super cocky...SS is the poutiest kid, I KNEW that if he got rejected he would act this way. I wanted him to set expectations, so I said, Well, just be prepared that there's a chance you may not. I think you will get into colleges for sure, and you can be positive and hopeful, but leave a bit of room for the possibility that you may not get into all of them, so you won't be shocked or super disappointed if it happens. This college has a very low acceptance rate, and the GPA to get in is much higher than SS's. SS had text DH because I said that and said "I guess I'm too dumb, I won't get in", and made it this huge deal with a big pity party, DH ended up getting mad at me because I made it seem like SS wouldn't get in and he wants him to be thinking positive, now he's upset and it was just uneccessary. It was a whole argument, of course I was the bad guy because I hurt SS's poor wittle feewings. And now that EXACT scenario happened, and SS is acting like someone stole his kitten. It's almost like I was right, and if anyone had paid attention to my words and intent instead of trying to make it out like I had bad intentions and SS was some victim, we wouldn't be in this situation. 

This was all on a Monday. Last Monday on the day skids were LEAVING, DH and I got into such a huge argument about SS (DH didn't like how I handled something when he wasn't home and completely misinterpreted all of it, but wouldn't listen of course) that we didn't talk all week and when we did talk, we actually opened the door to the possibility of splitting up. Neither of us want that and we immediately knew it so we backed off and talked about how to do better in the future. But FFS. These are the 2 most dramatic kids I've ever met.