As The Cat Sleeps
Happy New Year and many blessings to everyone here!
So, Powersulk SD17 is back in the fold after sleepovergate. I had called and mentioned she should call her dad, it would be a VERY GOOD IDEA hehe, bold italics underlined. She called her dad at the last minute.
Oh wait, I forgot to mention the Dec 30 Husband Family Party. Well, since PS was no where to be found and not calling or texting until the last minute, we just kind of went about our ways. Saturday morning I went for a 2 mile walk (a little sore but not too bad!) and Husband went to look at a new boat he wants to buy. We met back together (after a little argument about NOTHING) and got ready, here pops in powersulk and she gets ready, we all have our white elephant gifts wrapped, and head out. Get there late, its of course pandemonium, loads of food and yelling and littles. Loads of presents for the kids under the tree.
Sd24 Feral Forger has her cousin uber and she arrives late. Hugs dad, nods at me. No drama, shes off following one of her girl cousins around like a puppy doggy.
We leave early. No drama, things are ok. Except...
Tonight, New Years Eve there is a street festival called "first night Beachtown" with music and different entertainments. Kid friendly etc..Ive done it once before and its pretty fun. Except...
Powersulk SD17 wants to come with. EGADS. What teenager wants to spend NYE with their PARENTS? Powersulk thats who.
And Ive got to suck it up to keep the peace, walk on eggshells because husbands temper mantrums, keep the peace always, and let him cater and coddle his powersulk princess. (she powersulked at the Husband Family Party because she wasnt hungry when we arrived and as soon as we were ready to go, uttered a plaintive "but I didnt get to eat anything" and expected me to run to get plates so she can "load up for later" which I did NOT do, but someone else did...)
So now Im stressed. Husband will pay Powersulks way into the shindig and himself, and Im going to pay my own way. Then he exoects dinner, which pwersulk will order most expensive thing then not eat it. So, stressing about this whole thing to the point I sort of dont want to go. And I know this is the last year that Husband will be spending with child potentially, so again, I must suck it up.
Happy New Year because 2023 sucked 
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Idk about having to suck it
Idk about having to suck it up. If i had plans as a couple and SO last-minute invited a skid, i'd be pissed. And i hold myself to the same standard. My kids know that date night is not for them. Once my son showed up on a date night without calling and i told him about date night. Now if he pops by, though he lives out of town, he'll ask if it's date night. It's not a big deal him sleeping over unannounced since i don't live with SO, but we don't break plans. And you know what? Nobody's feelings were hurt.
They were non-planned sort of plans
And I just know that this is the last hurrah for him spending time with skid because thats what happens, she will be bad about keeping in contact, and he will also, and I WILL NOT be his excuse for that.
I made peace with it and will adopt a zen-master "go with the flow peacefully" stance. The rest is on them.
SD19 wants to spend NYE with
SD19 wants to spend NYE with us because she's excited to try alcohol for the first time and her dad bought a sangria cooler for her. I legit don't mind because as per my last blog, things are better for us, and I get Me Time whenever I want. And Yumpin Yiminy, my spouse doesn't pick petty arguments with me! Sometimes your spouse's behaviour has me worried for you.
Nah....
not me. I'm with Rumple. But again, I'm further along in the StepHell journey and all Sks are adults now. Even still...I don't see 17 years old as a kid and as you said, WHY???? Most 17 year olds want to be with their friends, especially on NYE.
I'd tell DH we have a date night that does not include "kids." If he gets pissed, then I'd gracefully bow out, tell him to enjoy the evening with his baby...I mean, daughter and head out to the event alone. You know you'd meet people there.
I guess 12 years of this same type of behavior did me in.
stayed in
I did not want to go out to this event with skid.
Did not want to pay for anything for skid.
Her passive agressive complaining is doing me in. "awe" when its not to her liking or not what she would want. Thats doing me in..."aweeeee"
CLove, hon... WHY did you
CLove, hon... WHY did you even call PS? Put DO NOT CALL/TEXT in front of her name so you see it whenever you consider contacting her. *give_rose*
in the area
I happened to be walking in the area, so thought I could swing by and do pick up to alleviate stress. Didnt work.
Let PS be your H's stress
Let PS be your H's stress factor. Do your best to disregard proximity.
COVID central of the Rags
COVID central of the Rags clan ... we all went to bed early. Not that sleep was happening with WW3 of neighborhood fireworks raging around us.
The Skid, DW, me, mom, and dad are all grinding through day 5 of being COVID+. We thought that my brother's family dodged the bullet other than my eldest nephew who tested + the day after we did. But my youngest nephew tested + yesterday and my pregnant niece tested + this AM. Hopefully they all have nothing worse than what those of us locked down at mom and dad's house are dealing with.
Stop taking the hook CLove. At all. When the spawn scalps an attendance, leave your wallet at home and make DH cover it all. You tickets, etc, etc, etc.... Make sure that every thing you want he pays for.... and make sure you consume his wallet so the toxic spawn gets told no. Play her game smart. And.... have fun!!!
A few short months and it is time to cut off DH from any CLove money and make him man up on covering all marital bills. Save your money and don't share. You have floated him for long enough while he pays his womb rental fees to the TT.