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Really Step-DIL? And OSD?

Noway2b1's picture

Submitted by Noway2b1 on Wed, 02/15/2023 - 12:54pm

Sooooo OSS wife sent out a group birthday text for my DH. It included BM and not me hahaha that tells me all I need to know. To DHs credit he started a new thread thanking her and specifically saying that he made a new thread that excluded BM and included me. F them. Oh and OSD sent DH and I her "favorite" pic of her dad, it was taken when he was dating the woman before me and they all were on vacation together LOL. 

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AlmostGone834's picture

Submitted by AlmostGone834 on Wed, 02/15/2023 - 12:58pm

See this... this right here just makes me mad. It's like really? Why do we put up with this (sorry I'm just salty today) but... why do we put up with these messed up situations? Your DH should have called her on it like "wtf SD I don't want to see a picture of my ex and I'm sure NW2B doesn't either".... but of course they never do... sigh. 

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Submitted by Noway2b1 on Wed, 02/15/2023 - 4:07pm

They need to just get over themselves and their "family trauma". I feel like I need to just take a harder stance so that I see/hear/deal with them even less. 

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Submitted by Stepdrama2020 on Wed, 02/15/2023 - 1:32pm

They never stop do they?!

Can he  tell his lil angels to cut the crap out. ?

Ridiculous

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Submitted by CLove on Wed, 02/15/2023 - 1:35pm

I am mad for you!

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Submitted by Survivingstephell on Wed, 02/15/2023 - 2:16pm

I'd be tempted to send back a happy picture of DH and I , maybe from our wedding.  Yeah, not tempted I'd send that.  

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Submitted by Noway2b1 on Wed, 02/15/2023 - 3:06pm

OSD would save it in order to do a photo dump of her dad and I at some later date that would either include her mom "accidentally" or would post it on her own Facebook wishing us happy anniversary or saying that we are the greatest most fantastical people.  or something weird. I stopped being in any photos over two years ago when I realized she would do that quite regularly. Of course any posts with momma has to be extra more than those for us lol. 

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Submitted by JRI on Wed, 02/15/2023 - 2:26pm

I feel bad for you, Noway.  It never stops for you.

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Submitted by PetSpoiler on Wed, 02/15/2023 - 4:41pm

A group text for a birthday wish?  Really?  That was just going out of her way to exclude you wasn't it?  

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Submitted by Robe8238 on Thu, 02/16/2023 - 6:12am

My oh my!  Sounds familiar.  I buy the gifts,  but DH gets the THANK YOUS! I even Tezuka my young grandchildren that gifts are from both of us and they need to thank us both.  It's as if I don't exist,  till gift time again when they know who makes the purchase!

You seem to be handling it all very well.  I can relate so much.  My SD wants to go down memory lane about things when he was married to her mom.  I just listen& smiling wishing I could choke her sometimes.

You post picture of the 2 of you! I do & did for our anniversary,  as did my daughters.  She refused to acknowledge. If she's not the center of attention,  she wants no part. She pouted at our wedding... everybody was asking me later what her problem was... this was a year ago.  She was 35 at the time,  not a child. It's hurtful and still is,  but I try to ignore her selfishness. 

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Submitted by Winterglow on Thu, 02/16/2023 - 7:14am

Next time she starts with the reminiscing, ask her flat out if she realizes how rude she's being.  

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Submitted by thinkthrice on Thu, 02/16/2023 - 11:56am

The permanent victim status and enmeshment.

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Submitted by ImperfectlyPerfect on Mon, 07/03/2023 - 12:01pm

100% right attitude NoWay2B1- pull further away, do lesss and less and less. This is garbage and frankly you're way too good for this crap. I was and still am an extremely good Sparent and I got shat on a few too many times. I do the BARE minimum. Absolutely do not jump through the hoops I used to (trust me I used to pull out all the stops to give them really great vacations, experiences, lovely resturants, you name it- NO MORE.) I do NOT let my hard earned money flow that way either and DH has really pulled back his support of the crap. They come to town - I don't even provide snacks- water is about it. DH is welcome to plan it out but he never does. Deep down he's probably aware that they aren't acting right ever. Pull back ALL the way - minimal exposure and don't let stupid things like that even impact you. I don't ! They try to do lil memory lane I tune it out and I also give myself permission to just leave whenever I want - take a walk, garden, watch tv and leave them to their own devices. Yuck for you, but get yourself out of the mud and let them bath in it.