Been a while. Same old and some new.

I'm pretty disengaged from all things step now. Haven't seen DHs ex in over 3 years maybe 4? .

I didn't go to any of the weddings or wedding showers. This was my choice. Partly because my name was not included on the wedding invites for either granddaughter. Nor was I personally invited to the showers. I received very last minute messages via Facebook regarding them. The first one I already had plans at the time it was held. The second, following the same pattern of a day or two before I chose not to even respond this time to the message.

Sorry but maybe I'm old fashioned but even a phone call is more personable and reliable in contacting people.

Now we are a few years from those events guess what's next? Yep. The baby showers. I was asked by DH today if I planned on going. Ehhhh what? Ermmmm no actually I'm not since that requires an invite, how did you know about it? Oh HE was invited. Great! Have fun! Of course it's a coed all family baby shower. OSS couldn't possibly miss THIS! So glad they give me an out by being so offhand and dismissive of me. Zero guilt about not going.

In other news, My Bio launched kid. Still doing well for the most part. Held down the job, still in the cute little apartment with high school best friend. Still going to community college. I miss seeing him regularly, but what a relief that he's launched. I'm sure my DH would agree LOL.

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Good ole OSS

OSS never fails to amaze!

Do you think DH will do well with those cute baby shower games? Lol.

Lol better him than me!

They all keep hinting that we will be used for babysitting. I laugh and say noooooo. But it is a hell no.

Self preservation is rarely a

Self preservation is rarely a bad thing. If you are comfortable with how you are dealing with the SKidult event stuff, keep taking care of you.

However, my default is go, be front and center, be with my mate, be happy, and be very in their face with all of that. If they choose to be assholes... game on. If they wilt and run for the dark corner like roaches do when a light is turned on in a cockroach filled room, bonus. Roaches are roaches. That is the roach's coice.

I advise going, being radiant, get a rockin hot dress, do a spa day, get a stylish cut/style, smokin hot shoes, and be on the arm of your mate and they on your arm. If they play games with seating card's, go early and make sure your card and the mates card are side by side. If that means moving a card or more than one card of someone else at that table, so be it. If someone says something, just be upfront that for some reason the places were screwed up and you and your mate were not seated together. Point out that your DH is the father/GF, etc. Let the morons playing games deal with any fallout.

If the perceive that their event is ruined, point out that they ruined it with their childish games. Play their game, and play to win. If they do not initiate the games, great.

An invite automatically includes the spouse of the invitee IMHO. Particularly when it is a family member event.

Fortunately we have not had this particular thing to deal with. The SpermClan has never made any attempt at interfacing with SS IRL. They limit their games to SpermLand with some occiassional though rare cross over in a long distance attempt to manipulate. I doubt if and when SS's marries, they will attend. Though I also doubt SS would bother inviting any of them. They did not attend or reach out at all when he graduated from HS, or from USAF BMT, or, or, or, or, or. Never one attempt to visit him. None of them. No matter where he was making his real life. But, they stalk my FB page and when they see that he may be visiting or we did visit or meet somewhere on a trip... the guilt trip starts. "Come see usssssss!" "Why didn't you visit us?" "You shoudl have come here instead of going to (Austria, Hawaii, etc, etc, etc....)"

They make no effort, he gives them zero thought.

When it comes to toxic morons, I am a rub their noses in it person.