OMG don't!  DH did this to me too when OSDwas15 and she was already estranged and not speaking to him. He was using the trip as "carrot" or "bribe" and FULLY admitted it. Oh we had Big Arguments about it beause it was supposed to be our long awaited overseas trip that we had already put off several times due to SDs!  I was furious about rewarding her with this trip and I didn't think YSDthen13 was ready for a trip.

If he refuses to back down then you do you. Don't go or if you still want to (a cruise, stuck on a boat with them....ugh) then he pays for everything for himself and SDs and you only pay for you and plan your own time. 

In the end nothing, of course, was resolved with OSD. YSD was surprising and was actually fun on the trip and enjoyed it.

I can’t believe he had the balls to actually try and book them on a couples trip.

Your DH has rocks in his head.

Sometimes these men come off as they get it, then shit like this happens.

Give DH a choice its either the two of you, or the threesome without you.

Remind him to choose wisely.

In fact, because he even entertained the idea the whole thing has soured. Id do my own thing AND make DH fork out the big bucks to do it.

What an idiot.

Blessings 

Cruising with the SDs?  That would be a big NO from me.  Never been on a vacation with my two SDs, never would.  It would not be a pleasure for me. 

Ok, hear me out....there are a ton of areas that are 21+, so you can ditch them. Demand separate rooms and go! 

Hard PASS!

"DH, you weren't expecting any sex then, were you?"

I don't agree with kids getting left out of a family vacation.. but I also think it's ok for parents/adults to go on vacation without their kids occasionally too... this was supposed to be a romantic trip.. kids not included.

Let me remind you, DuH, we were going on a ROMANTIC cruise. If you need your kids for distraction,I can only assume that you are past it and I need to start looking for a younger, fitter, sexier model. How sad.

Good grief, how on earth could he possibly imagine that you'd be jumping for joy? Maybe suggest a doctor's visit to rule out dementia? Maybe senility is setting in,after all?

I hope you can see this as just another training opportunity for your DH. It's going to take time for him to fully grasp that you've tapped out. He reverted to his default setting, you put him in check, and now you move forward. Maybe wait a week and revisit the issue?

Cruising with teens CAN be fun, but even with normal ones, it's still work. I've done it a few times with independent, well adjusted kids who had their own money, and it's neither relaxing nor romantic. With your weird SDs, it would be a nightmare! They'd be sullen and clingy, want constant daddee time and always be begging for $$$. 

Hold firm, girl. It's okay to say "I don't want to do that. Either we take a vacation we BOTH enjoy together, or we can go separately".

DH knew it was a vacation for two of you.  He then tryed to slip in SK into your vacation.  He knew what he was doing was against your feelings. But he did it anyway.  Like you would not know there two SK in your cramp cabin.   These cabins are small. Like set up for four you can not move in them,   Or is he getting two cabins or a suite? 

OMG.  Is he daft or just that desperate to try to make nice and sweep their doo doo under the rug so as to maintain a relationship with these two trolls?  The answer to that really doesn't matter.  Big "NO WAY" on this one, from me! 

"Just say no!"

I wouldn't want my skids to go, either and that goes double for your skids. If you and your DH have not had a vacation in years, no need to ruin it with surly skids. That said, if I had to take a vacation with skids, I would pick a cruise because you can easily vacation with someone on a cruise and rarely see them. 

"DH, we wouldn't even go on a romantic cruise with friends unless we were really sure they were compatible with us.  Why would we go with 2 people who hate us?:

That is all I got on this one.

Wants his harem on vacation with him.   All THREE wives.

To plan a mini getaway for our then 4th wedding anniversary (and he was) but said maybe new yrs we could do something but would know closer to the date. 
 

imagine my surprise and shock when a week later ss who was about 20 messages hubby to say he and his sisters were free for hubby to take them on a holiday from this date to this date (which just so happened to fall during our anniversary weekend which ss knew).

hubby messages me from work demanding i book airfares and hotel accommodations that skids were coming. My response was very simple "NNNNNNOOOOOOOOOOO!!"

when hubby replied with "what do you mean no? I don't understand," i replied again with "NNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNOOOOOOOOOOOOO"

then I proceeded to lay down the facts how skids had behaved every outing, their rudeness and disrespect towards me and our kids. Reminded hubby that this was our wedding anniversary to celebrate us, our marriage, our relationship and skids had done everything possible to destroy our relationship, marriage and marital harmony. That sd's repeatedly made every outing and conversation about biomum and stepdad.

i asked hubby to explain to me why on earth he even considered skids coming as even remotely acceptable? Did he find it acceptable that our wedding anniversary would revolve around bio mum and stepdad? I told hubby that being shunned and disrespected during our wedding anniversary by skids would result in me leaving with our kids on an earlier flight back home and hubby getting divorce papers.

i remember even sending screenshots to hubby for tickets for me and our 2 toddler kids to australia for that weekend for a few weeks which was like $6000 and said it would be charged to hubbys credit card and he could spend our wedding anniversary with his kids from exwife alone and enjoy being tortured with their disrespect and never ending rants about bio mum and stepdad, that I didn't know when i would be coming back.

believe me, hubby apologised profusely for his stupidity and came home grovelling big time. He knew in how much deep shit he was in. Since then he has not invited skids. 
 

i remember after that there was an occasion where hubby had been busy and during long weekends we might plan a weekend getaway to a hotel nearby. Well we had booked it and ss tells hubby he is coming home from uni. When he got home hubby told him that tomorrow which was a saturday, we had a mini getaway booked so ss would have to arrange an uber back to uni which he has done before. 
 

ss proceeded to tell hubby no that hubby could come back on the sunday to pick him up and drive him to uni (it would have been a 4-5 hour trip for hubby vs the 1 hr drive for ss). Hubby told him no that he had 2 options, he could come along with us and have lunch then book an uber from our hotel (university was maybe a 30-40min drive away) or ss could arrange an uber for sunday.

hubby knew that mini getaway implied there was gonna be sex, he knew damn well if he buggered off to play chauffeur for half a day that hubby wasn't gonna be getting any sex and all for what? To play chauffeur and prove to ss he is more superior to us always? 
 

i wad proud of hubby making that decision and holding by it that day all on his own. Its been a long hard road to get there but hubby knows that if skids can't respect him, his time etc, then hubby and us will not drop everything to cowtow to their every whims and demands

SD Power Sulk, I planned a nice vacay for us and included her. Husband went on a fishing trip the first day. I had a nice snorkeling adventure for us two planned.

When Husband came out of fishing trip it was them vs me. SO very not romantic.

I refused to take any type of vacation with his son. He's an insufferable psycho.

My DH used to try to sneak SD into trips to see my parents because they live an hr away from a major tourist destination. I shut that down because I was not about to take time away from seeing my family to entertain SD. We've gone on a few weekend trips with her, all miserable. Thankfully my DH seemed to know just when to show up with an adult beverage for me.

I told my DH vacations with SD weren't fun, vacations with kids are just work. He agreed but now he won't go on a vacation with me and our kids either. As usual the rules changed after SD got the benefit.