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Submitted by Shieldmaiden on Fri, 11/25/2022 - 11:40am

Dh had an epiphany after his daughter, 21, sent his crazy tempered sister after him via group text. He said he had chest pains and felt like he didn't care if he died, then a wierd sensation overtook him. He said he realized he had been too afraid to piss off his daughters, so he hadn't stood up to them like he should have. He decided to rewrite his rulebook about his kids. 

He called SD16 and told her she was wrong. She tried to argue and he told her he was the adult so he didn't need to explain himself to her. She called him a hypocrite, and he told her "No! You will not speak to me that way!" She tried to meddle in my estranged relationship with her sister 21, and he told her "that is not your business." When she said that I should apologize to SD21 and allow her into my home, because I was wrong to be upset with her spreading lies about me, he told her "No. She is an adult and you don't get to tell her what  to do. You are a child and this is not a democracy!" He told everyone that if they didn't treat us and eachother with respect in our home, he would escort them out of our home.

Oh my goodness! I have my husband back! All it took was a near death experience to make him see how awful things have been. We are both sick with the flu, so we are home sick together. I feel closer to him now than I ever have. I told him I was so proud of him for how he handled this. 

I have waited so long for this. His youngest SD is the worst right now. She is still convinced she is right. Oldest SD is still spreading lies about us, and his sister won't speak to him or me. 

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Rags's picture

Submitted by Rags on Fri, 11/25/2022 - 12:13pm

Stay the course and tolerate no deviations form the new norm and expectations of the behaviors of others.

What a great holiday gift!!!!!

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Submitted by Stepdrama2020 on Fri, 11/25/2022 - 12:33pm

This is great news.

Once you feel like your DH has your back your energy will shift towards positivity.!

Blessings

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Submitted by Ispofacto on Fri, 11/25/2022 - 1:13pm

A Thanksgiving miracle!

I'm sorry he had chest pains and I'm glad he's okay.  I hope he remembers this.  What a relief you must feel.

So, you didn't end up hosting TG?

 

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Submitted by Shieldmaiden on Sat, 11/26/2022 - 12:12pm

No. Just my dad came over. Everyone else cancelled.

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Submitted by Shieldmaiden on Sat, 11/26/2022 - 12:12pm

No. Just my dad came over. Everyone else cancelled.

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Submitted by Survivingstephell on Fri, 11/25/2022 - 1:56pm

Yes! Stay the course because winter is coming. Boundaries will be challenged like never before.  He did use the right words though. I am the adult and you are the child.  None if your business.  That's her responsibility.  Where did he learn those from?   LOL.  Has he been listening to you after all?  There's your miracle!   I hope this sticks.  

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Submitted by thinkthrice on Sat, 11/26/2022 - 3:24am

Chef and I are also battling the persistent cough.   We had televisits yesterday and I was in the better position to pick up the meds (either that or men just don't deal with illnesses that well LOL)

Glad to hear  your DH is coming to his senses!  Why oh why does it take a health scare to abandon the "don't rock the boat/ostrich/laissez faire" policy with viscious, drama queen BM and skids?   Beware the backsliding though. 

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Submitted by Shieldmaiden on Sat, 11/26/2022 - 10:21pm

Thanks. I just found out I had covid.Feeling better now, and happy that the skids can't come over. 

Rags's picture

Submitted by Rags on Sat, 11/26/2022 - 11:25pm

I tested positive Christmas day last year.  Mine was notably minor. My DW had her COVID experience a few weeks ago. She tested negative a week ago today.  She was much more sick than I was when I had it.

Feel better and get some rest. The exhaustion was one of the more durable symptoms for both my DW and I during and for a week or so after COVID.

Take care of you.  Keeping the drama and stress to a minimum is imporant. Leverage that to distance the Skids.

After all, you do not want to give them COVID.

Wink

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Submitted by shamds on Sat, 11/26/2022 - 7:48am

I remember when my husband made the bs pathetic excuses ss dished out. Eventually one day hubby was real sick with a virus and he messages his son who was at uni how sick he was

know ss's reply? It wasn't "oh whats wrong dad, i hope you feel better," nope it was a screenshot of his bank balance near 0 with message "can you top up the money in my bank acct"

my husband felt like a knife stabbed him in the heart. We also recently had an argument where I didn't feel supported by him emotionally, physically etc and hubby knew he'd stuffed up with me and ss had to show his colours then of not give a crap

when hubby told me what happened and how upset and hurt he was, i told him this had been yrs in the making and hubby just wanted to be ignorant