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Alls Fair (or not)

CLove's picture

Submitted by CLove on Tue, 09/07/2021 - 12:36pm

Hope everyone had a nice long restful labor day weekend.

Mine was...ok. But not at all restful.

The fairs in town.

I thought it would be a good idea to get a group together for the evening music and SD15 backstabber could meet her friends. Sounds nice, right?

Yea, so I got the 5 tickets and then 2 bracelets for unlimited rides, online, printed everything, and was ready to go. Got there and the printouts for the wristbands werent dark enough to read. So, Backstabbers friend, the girl with the hair of many colors, asked me to please nag them into giving them the bracelets (shes a funny one. She has a job, at 15!)

So, we got the bracelets for unlimited rides and didnt see backstabber or her friends the whole night. Then around 10, we met up with them. To be told "wow, 10! Its our bedtime!" lol. Kids.

Otherwise I did not see backstabber the entire weekend, because I was either out or she was holed up in her room.

No plans - fires are raging across california and really just wanted a quiet weekend. Cleaned the backyard. 

No drama to report! Also no thank yous were given. Im at that peacedful place, where I no longer get angry. Just resigned. And more resolute in my disengagement.

Hope everyone had a good one.

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missgingersnap2021's picture

Submitted by missgingersnap2021 on Tue, 09/07/2021 - 12:59pm

I love the weekends were SD and I just kind of come and go and are rarely in the same room together. But OMG DH would have never allowed little Fufu to run around a festival with a friend until 10 o'clock at 15. Hell I don't think he would even do that now and she's going to be 17 in a couple weeks!!

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Submitted by CLove on Tue, 09/07/2021 - 1:00pm

It was soooooooooo great!

Yeah, DH is more permissive than I would be, but on this occasion I was happy about it.

Biggrin

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Submitted by Aniki-Moderator on Tue, 09/07/2021 - 2:02pm

I thought it would be a good idea ...and SD15 backstabber could meet her friends. 

*I*?? Darlin', you should have stopped yourself at the "I thought". Next time, CLove does NOT take action. When an activity involves SD, action is up to Daddy. Period.

*I* got the 5 tickets and then 2 bracelets

STOP THAT. Your DH buys tickets or whatever for ALL activities that include SD. CLove only makes the purchase or does the planning for CLove/DH activities.

no thank yous were given

Of course not. 1) You cannot expect them, and Dirol you should not be going anything for the ingrate.

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Submitted by CLove on Tue, 09/07/2021 - 2:16pm

I guess it was my last hurrah. Because I loooooove the fair and wish that Id had kiddos to take on all the rides.

But mostly it was the music, and time with friends. And DH paid me back for it. So Im not out any money. Just my appreciation bank account is on negative.

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Submitted by Aniki-Moderator on Tue, 09/07/2021 - 2:23pm

I hope it is your last hurrah. Your appreciation bank account should be closed for business. *biggrin*

CLove's picture

Submitted by CLove on Tue, 09/07/2021 - 2:48pm

In General topics forum...sheesh. Its ALL closed for remodeling. No bizness.

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Submitted by strugglingSM on Tue, 09/07/2021 - 2:59pm

I'm that person, too...especially since my DH cannot plan anything more than 5 minutes in advance (it's a family trait since BiL and MiL do the same thing). But, given SSs lack of gratitude and tendency to cause drama with BM, I've backed off. I'll plan for myself, but that's it. Anytime I think, "oh that will be fun!" I remind myself of all the times I planned things that were fun and all I got in rerun were complaints. 

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Submitted by tog redux on Tue, 09/07/2021 - 3:07pm

Buying SD and all her buddies rides at the fair is not being disengaged. And no thank yous, even. 

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Submitted by CLove on Tue, 09/07/2021 - 3:23pm

just one other friend. And Husband paidme back.

And still no thank yous...

missgingersnap2021's picture

Submitted by missgingersnap2021 on Tue, 09/07/2021 - 3:21pm

I slipped last night and tried to talk to DH about SD bday that is coming up in 3 weeks. I wanted to se eif he wanted to get a nice cake, where he might want to take her, etc. He didnt want to so believe me I will not bring it up again, help him plan anything and we established earlier this year that for bdays she and I will only echange cards. I used to try and do things and help for DH's sake but if he doesnt care to put thought into something why should I?

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Submitted by CLove on Tue, 09/07/2021 - 3:24pm

It was a fun night. For everyone. ANd I needed some fun.

But it wont happen again definitely.

I need better disengaging...!