After a 10 day vacation to VA to AZ ..I'm back.

Vacation was good ...our only issue was not the kids but DH.  Good lord that man cannot navigate.  He also tries to take over planning the vacation with absolutely no idea of how to plan and make sure everything is taken care of.  DRIVES ME INSANE.  

At one point I told him I was calling off all the vacations and I would not travel with him anymore.  I mean really...he thought you just throw some clothes in a suitcase and go.  Yea buddy that is WHAT YOU DO ..I'm the woman behind the curtains that takes care of everything.  So eff off and leave me to do my thing.

I about left him in Arizona over the same issue...after 4 days of just me and SD.  (she was an EXCELLENT traveling partner and we had a very very nice time together)...DH wanted to tell me how to get places, etc.  Again EFF off DH..you haven't been around and me and SD have this down.

I swear I have no idea what the eff has gotten into him..but it better leave soon.

The Dirty Dancing lodge in VA was gorgeous and all of us...SD, BS, DD and DH all enjoyed it.  We had great weather the entire time.

Then in less than 24 hours SD, DH and I flew to Phoenix where DH had a conference.  SD and I went to the Grand Canyon and Sedona...simply awesome.  SD I think has gills and spent all her time in the pool.

Now onto the interesting part..

SD had a lot questions about her mom and dad...oy....why me

SD was 1 years old when they seperated and divorced and had no recollection of them together.   

She wanted to know why they divorced.  In my mind....because your mother is selfish psycho hose best.....what came out my mouth...well sometimes SD people just don't get along and its better they are not together for everyone sake.

Why didn't dad and mom get along.  In my head...once again because your mother has a personality disorder and is crazy af.  Out of my mouth...sometimes people just have two different ways of dealing with life and they don't agree on things no matter how hard they try.

They were together so long..why does mom hate dad so much.  Uhm...how long do you think they were together there SD?  14 years is what mom says.  Uh...no they were together for 7 years.  In my head...YOUR MOTHER IS A PSYCHO BIOTCH ..out of my mouth...SD honestly I don't know why your mother hates your father so much.  Yes..he did divorce her but he has always supported you kids and did whatever he could to help you kids.  He has never tried to make anything difficult with your mother other than fight to spend time with you and with your brother.  

You don't like DD and DS dad do you but you don't say anthing bad about him and try to help DD and DS with presents for him and stuff.   Why can't mom be like that....In my head...SEE ABOVE ANSWERS....out of my mouth...You are right SD.  I don't like DD and DS's father.  He did some very bad things to me.  However, he is their father and I won't do anything to harm their opinion of him or refuse to help them with stuff for him.  I respect that he is their father, despite what he did to me. That is what being an adult and a parent is about.

There were other questions but these were the hightlights.  

SD also DD she is unhappy with the current summer arrangment where she is now 3 weeks with her mother.  Her mother will work and has no plans to do anything so SD will sit at home alone all day. She told DD..don't worry at some point she will back at our house because she has no intention of sitting at her mom's all day doing nothing.  She will call DH and have him pick her up during the day so she can hang with her friends or with DD at her condo.  SD clued into the fact..the only reason her mom took vacation time with her this summer was because DH did.  NO kidding there SD...