NSR...but family related rant cause this is the only place I have

Ugh....I swear. DH has one brother ...aka the methhead. Literally he is a meth addict complete with the missing teeth and everything. OY joy..

Now MH (methhead) has two boys....nephew A and B. Nephew A....well he flew the addict coup at 14 when the house he was living in with his methhead mom...aka the stripper (MH met her while delivering chips to the local strip club while she was on a pole). was raided by the police and Nephew A was on the ground at gun point.

NA (nephew A) went to live with his girlfriends family. Ok...fast forward 9 years..NA is married to the girlfriend and they now had a baby. smh...here. I will say NA is a hardworker and has completed his college degree and has a BS in Nursing and works an ER nurse. NA really is a good kid...he is the same age as my DD...22.

That being said.NA likes to hang with DH since he really is the only stable relation he has on his fathers side....that is saying something given we know DH is DEFINATELY not a saint.

Last weekend (right after i got back from Scotland)...NA and his wife and new baby came over. Ok..cool..I guess. DH decided to invite NA to watch a football here tonight. When DH asked me in front of everyone..I said ok. But I mean really since it was infront of everyone I didn't really have any chance to say no.

Kicker here..I'm ONCALL FOR WORK...which means my work week is somewhat hellish. Ok I will deal....its just one person...NA

Oh no NA cannot go ANYWHERE with out wife and new baby (I mean are talking a 1 month old) so now wife and baby are coming.

Sigh.....two things with that..

One...I'm not a baby person..yep mine were fine but I'm not the kind of woman that is like oooh a babby.....uh yea no.

Second thing....the wife doesn't like me. She has never said anything but she doesn't. Sometimes you just know...ykwm..She reminds me of Beaver and has that "my sh8z don't stink kind of attitude." She also has that....gotta post every picture of every moment of our lives on social media. I'm soooooo not that way

So..now I have to entertain the wife..who doesn't like me....and be "on" so to speak when all I want to do is relax. I have to work this weekend....so I really wanted tonight to do what I wanted, which was see my DS and facetime my DD over scotland.

When it was just NA..I was ok..cause I would go do my own thing.

My question is this...why in gods name can they not go places by themselves..and why would you want to come to somone's house with your baby when you clearly hate the host .

I don't get it but I will put on my smile and tap dance shoes..but I ain't happy.

P.S. I did let DH know..I was not please with this. That while yes he didn't know NA would be brining the whole damn crew...he also didn't think of the logistics of everything..food, drinks etc. I didn't appreciate his "ass"uming I would be his party coordinator.

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why would you want to come to

why would you want to come to somone's house with your baby when you clearly hate the host .

Same reason why people who claim they never want to be in jail end up in jail.....

3 (free) hots and a cot / no responsibility for a few days

you seem like a nice person who will host and most hostess will cook and clean too especially for family/close friends

maybr your house is really cozy and she's willing to override her reservations about you. Or maybe she doesn't have an issue with you since she's never said so

Can you tell your DH that he is responsible for "party planning"

Can you tell your DH that he is responsible for "party planning" as you plan to spend the evening in another room of the house "working?" Then visit with your kids and catch up on your tv watching instead of spending a miserable evening with someone who dislikes you.

The fix is simple but the

The fix is simple but the tapdancing and not directly confronting the usual bullshit has doomed you to misery with the visit of NA et al.

"No, not this week. I am recovering from jet lag and am on call for work. Someother time, let me know ahead of discussing it with NA and we may work something out. But this week, the answer is no."

Even with this visit, make sure DH knows that he and they will all h ave to be quiet and not disturm you. The onus on entertaining SDIL and quieting her baby is not on you. Be crystal clear with DH. Better planning on his part will return more success and reduce your stress over it all. Which should be his primary concern.

Take care of you.