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Can skids make you physically ill

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Submitted by Disengageme on Wed, 07/07/2021 - 9:25pm

I read a blog today about skids making you sick and I think that it's true. About two years ago I would start to have panic attacks when I knew ss11 was coming or when he'd just show up. I hadn't had one since my first husband's dad was killed 14+ years ago. My chest would hurt as soon as I seen the car slowing down. I did this for a few months straight. I disengaged some and the panic attacks went away some. I still have them but not as much. For the last month I started waking up sore. I felt like I'd been in a car wreck. My muscles are all so tense and I noticed I was exhausted. I went to the doctor a couple weeks ago and was told I now have fibromyalgia. I have soaked up as much information on what caused me to get it in the first place. Lots of stress and aggravation can trigger it. I can't say for sure but I think that's how I got it so now I wake up and can barely move. I'm so exhausted some days i do nothing. 

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Dogmom23's picture

Submitted by Dogmom23 on Wed, 07/07/2021 - 9:34pm

Yes. I get physically sick. Panic attacks non stop and cannot eat for days.

JRI's picture

Submitted by JRI on Wed, 07/07/2021 - 10:02pm

Migraine, PTSD, IBS, etc.

 

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Submitted by LittleCloud9 on Wed, 07/07/2021 - 11:20pm

To be exact, it was BM not skid that did me in. High bp, panic attacks, insomnia, weight loss... I'm probably heading for fibromyalgia too in a few more years 

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Submitted by Stepdrama2020 on Thu, 07/08/2021 - 7:48am

Its the after shock after the massive earthquake.

To this day when I even hear the same name as my ex SD I get sweaty and nervous. Even now holidays that are no longer shared with the toxic SD I remember and flashes come shooting through my mind. 

The years of abuse has created so much damage . Never forget but more importantly NEVER EVER AGAIN.

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Submitted by diver111 on Thu, 07/08/2021 - 10:49am

I can relate!! I wish I could say mine is an EX SD!! The hairs on the back of my neck go up when I hear her name. 

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Submitted by justmakingthebest on Thu, 07/08/2021 - 10:42am

Absolutely. When your world gets flipped upside down and you lose all your security that you normally have- of course you will have physical reactions. 

I am so sorry you are going through that. I got on a daily anti anxiety and take xanex as needed. I was feeling so out of control and I could tell my blood pressure was spiking, I couldn't concentrate, I was shaky and cried A LOT. These skids and their mother's can really mess a person up! 

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Submitted by PetSpoiler on Thu, 07/08/2021 - 11:02am

Being around, or even the thought of being around toxic people, can make you sick.  I am convinced.  I still remember the day SGS was born.  The mere thought of going around SDIL made my blood pressure shoot up.  My blood pressure is normally just fine.  My dh still didn't get it at that time.  He felt like SS needed us to be there oh so bad and our bios of course wanted to see the baby and SS.  That was the last time my bios and I ever saw SS and his wife.  I started to see what a liar SS was and is as well.  DH started to see for himself not long after.  Funny how much more peaceful my life is since cutting those two faced liars out of my life and since dh cut them out too.  Should he choose to resume talking to them ever again, he will find that he'll have to visit with them away from our home.  I will not be involved.  Neither will our bios unless they choose to when they're grown and launched.  

 

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Submitted by diver111 on Thu, 07/08/2021 - 11:13am

PetSpoiler - how long has it been since you've been in contact? I am at peace right now because I have been disengaged for several years, but there are hints that SD might be around more which makes me physically sick. 

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Submitted by PetSpoiler on Thu, 07/08/2021 - 11:23am

I haven't seen them in two years.  I talked to SS on the phone a year and nine months ago.  He did text dh last month for Fathers Day but dh didn't respond.  I've got him and SDIL blocked on my phone so no idea if he's tried to reach out to me.  They also sent our bios a card with money in it for Christmas.  Made dh mad.  He was tempted to send it back but I talked him out of it.  I reasoned that it would be contact and if they were trying to get a reaction from us then that would count.  He's probably going to keep trying and hopefully dh will keep ignoring unless and until he and his wife apologize and more importantly change their behavior for the better.  I won't hold my breath.  They don't see anything wrong with their behavior.