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Submitted by MissK03 on Mon, 03/22/2021 - 12:56pm

So as my pervious blog BM is taking SD today instead this of this weekend to get her nails done. 
 

My guess is because it's going to be nice this weekend she has plans to be on her motorcycle. 
 

I keep track of every time BM does something with skids in the notes in my phone just because you never know when/if you might need that info. This isn't hard because they can fit into a screen shot for a year.. 
 

So looking at my notes... BM has taken SD a day before my birthday in 2019, today she will taking her 2 days before my birthday. 
 

Coincidence? Since she rarely takes her anywhere... hmmmm....... 

I told my SO she better not come to the door and expect to see the puppy. She might try to because I'm not home and SO is. We all know she wants to get to SO when I'm not around or in general for that matter.  (I'm at work and she's coming soon) 

My guess she will look at the boys cars and be like omgggg my babies are so big now. 
 

I'll keep you posted if any drama happens! Haha. 

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Submitted by bananaseedo on Mon, 03/22/2021 - 1:36pm

I seriously doubt most bm's know our bdays, I certainly don't know bm's- and I seriously doubt it's on purpose.  Why would it be? If anything it's a gift to NOT have our skids on our bdays.  I think it's just coincidence, honeslty. 

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Submitted by MissK03 on Mon, 03/22/2021 - 1:44pm

I know BMs birthday. Also, skids live with us 100% full time now for 3 years now and before that she took them EOWE. She only sees them a handful of times a year so it is a possibility... given who BM is. 

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Submitted by bananaseedo on Mon, 03/22/2021 - 1:50pm

Ok, so let's be realistic- if she's non custodial and doesn't see them often, what makes you think that kids would spend any time telling her when your bday is?   

And again, her taking her 'around your bday' means nothing- because having a skid taken somewhere away from us on our bdays, is typically a favor, so what would she achieve by taking the SD a couple days before your bday? You probably did just over-think this one IMO.  

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Submitted by MissK03 on Mon, 03/22/2021 - 1:59pm

Realistic it could just be a coincidence like you (and I) said. I think it's more comical then anything. BM likes to insert herself with specific things happening in our house, on vacation, etc. 

That's what has me questioning. It's just a thought on my part. I just happened to notice it. 

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Submitted by Thumper on Mon, 03/22/2021 - 1:43pm

No coincidences..

I recall our bm would send notice of her court filings at birthdays or planned events she would well aware of.  She even had a sheriiff show UP to serve dh when we moved into a lovely new neighborhood...imangin those gazes out the windows LOOK HENRY  the police are at our new neighbors house.

I do not believe there are coincidences with bm's like this. Their actions are very well thought out.

 

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Submitted by MissK03 on Mon, 03/22/2021 - 1:49pm

Exactly. Haha. BM hasn't made plans with skids on HER birthday just cried to my SO that "he doesn't even tell the kids to wish me a happppyyyyyy birthdayyyyy." This was a few months ago she did that... 

Funny how her birthday (a month after that crying fit) she didn't make plans once again. Not like she ever does. 

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Submitted by bananaseedo on Mon, 03/22/2021 - 1:58pm

Is she really involved in your guys life or is she just your typical absent parent, that fusses once in a while about how they are the victims in the distance they have w/their kids because of their own doing?

My exh was like this- but typically was very little part of our lives.  I really think people like this are such narcissist they would not ever have time to think of anyone else's bday except their own lol.  

Narcs are great at creating distractions, hissy fits or ruining holidays or bdays that are NOT theirs or a day that isn't all about them-even their own kids bdays.....but you better throw a damn festival with cakes and ponies on THEIR day.

I recall a particularly bad one w/the ex.  Our 2nd son was born the day before my exh's bday (Imagine his disdain that it took away from his day).  The next day he went home to watch our 1st son  while I stayed at the hospital.  He complained that he was bored and had to 'babysit' his son on HIS bday so he invited a guy friend over.  When I came home the house was trashed from dirty dishes and drinks -when I said something he yelled at me until I was shaking in a corner on the floor - this was upon JUST arriving with our newborn and we had our 19 month old.   How HE had to babysit his own kid and didn't get to do anything special (he was like closer to 40 at that point!)....so what's the big deal of the mess made.  Wow.  I have horror stories for days about that ahole.