Letter to SS's school
Here is what I have drafted that DH and I talked about. Let me know what you think and if I should make any changes, additions, deletions or rephrase anything. You ladies know our story as well as we do at this point! LOL
As SS’s father I highly disagree with multiple items in this report and also have concerns about how his IEP was handled this year. First, I am concerned that even though I was on the phone for this conference, BM's H was allowed to sign his IEP as “Dad” and legal education decision maker. Neither of those are true and I would like the school to address and correct that immediately.
As for his 504 action plan, SS does not have Dysgraphia or Dyslexia. There has never been an evaluation for either and simply taking his mother’s word is not enough. SS also no longer has POTS. I am attaching the paperwork from his doctor showing that POTS is now “resolved”. He is also not taking salt pills.
Before I can allow my son to be continued to be labeled with a learning disability that I firmly believe he does not have, a formal assessment and diagnosis needs to be documented. Considering that there is currently an ongoing case within the city of ____ over BM forging health department documents for my son, I feel that this request is not too much to ask. If you would like to have the police report please let me know.
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Honestly - as someone on the
Honestly - as someone on the receiving end of angry parent complaints, can I suggest that you word it differently? You catch more flies with honey, as it goes. Even though I've been on the other side, now that I deal with this as a professional, I can see how my DH made himself look "angry" with his responses, and that led people to dismiss him.
So I'd say - Hello, I am SS's father and was on the line for the conference. I do not agree with many items in this report and would like them corrected, please. For one, I have not heard of any evaluations being conducted that have established that SS has a learning disability - if they have been done, please provide the evaluation to me, as I have not received them. I have attached medical documentation that shows he no longer has POTS and is not taking salt pills, so please remove those from the document.
Also - I am SS's legal father, CrazyPants's husband is not, and he has no legal decision-making power, so please remove his name as "dad" and include mine instead. I've attached the court order establishing my legal rights for you to review.
Thank you.
I personally would leave out the forgery stuff. Tempting - but not relevant and might make DH look like he's stirring the pot.
ETA: "Until I receive the evaluations showing SS has a learning disability, I am not in agreement with including that on his IEP."
I see what you are saying. I
I see what you are saying. I will make some changes and send it to DH.
Thank you for your help with wording!!
I would delete the word
I would delete the word "highly" in the first paragraph. It's a bit hyperbolic. Change "First" to "Firstly", and use "Secondly" and "Lastly" in the following paragraphs for better coherence.
The last paragraph is a bit wordy and what your H is asking for is not clear. Does he want testing for SS? I do love that he informs the school officials about BM's current legal problems. That's delicious!
Yes, so what we are trying to
Yes, so what we are trying to say is Dyslexia should not be in his 504 plan if he has never been assessed and if BM wants to push it, show the proof. Have it documented by a doctor.
I really want to tell the school too.... It is a really small town so YOU KNOW it will get around!
Tog had great suggestions. If
Tog had great suggestions. If I were you, I'd follow them. They get the point across which is what you want.
As tempting as it is to say something about the forgery, I would not. If it's a small town, when it hits the court docket, it will be known by all. It's the type of case people notice.
Yes to all the above
Write it in an inquiry mode as though you are curious or inquisitive about the circumstances. You must come off sounding very innocent as though you were wondering why XYZ was done so that a neutral third-party could read the letter and not assume DH was angry with the school district and the administrators ( although rightfully so)
A bit of confusion here
A bit of confusion here
If he has an IEP, there was a formal assessment. No IEP will be given if assessment wasn't completed. Wont qualify for IEP in absence of evaluation and assessment. If his disability listed as "learning disability" on the IEP, that means formal evaluation was conducted. When was his initial IEP? Dad jusf isn't in the loop, it doesn't mean kid was labeled LD without testing. IEP doesn't work that way
Does he have IEP or 504? Cannot have both
If it's a regular annual iep, not initial certification one, anyone who was present can sign it. Aunt, grandma, older sibling
Letter is very confusing to me.
He does have both.
He does have both.
The IEP is only about his speech issues, which there is nothing else the school can do and it is even stated that the speech teacher can't really do anymore. It is just the BM's husband signed in 2 places- Legal decision maker and listed himself as "Dad" on the attendance page.
His 504 is his medical stuff that BM has made up. So we are contesting all of the things in there because they aren't true. The school said that they "Just take the parents word and don't require documentation".