SO had a big talk with BM about SD 8 useage of TikTok. She wasn't on private, allows anyone to follow her (people she doesn't know) and follows 1,000s of people herself. She has made 100s of videos within the last year of having one. Most are dancing to inappropriate songs and doing inappropriate movements as well. In one video, part of the dance was to imitate receiving oral sex by pretending to push someone's head down while sticking out your tongue in a provacative way. Honestly, it made my stomach hurt because that's gross to see an 8 year old doing that. And this is coming from someone who doesn't agree with oversexualizing children (I don't think it's wrong to wear a bikini, etc). Others are her thinking she's a YouTube sensation showing people her toys and BEGGING them to follow her and "like my videos" and "if you don't like my videos please let me know and I'll stop making this type of video". Honestly, those ones are just pitiful and sad because they make you realize how desperately in need she is for this fake validation from random people on the internet.

Anyways, the talk happened and BM accuses SO of calling her a bad mom because she's okay with all of this blah blah blah. They came to the conclusion that since this has been an ongoing issue, the solution was for them to upgrade her old iPad (apparently she was due for another) and simply not download the app on the new one. - My take away was that, cool that gets rid of the problem but neither of you two used this as a teaching moment of explaining why some of this isn't appropriate TO YSD so the issue isn't truly resolved, rather it's been swept under the rug. Whatever, that's their own poor parenting skills at work, right? Well it's been almost 2 weeks since talk (we have EOWE visitation, so this weekend coming she'll be here) and the account hasn't been deleted and videos keep coming! So BM didn't follow through with what their coparenting decision was and now (I'm sure with BM suggestions) SD has deleted SO, myself, and anyone linked to us (like my niece) so we have no way to monitor it when she's not here. 

Here's my dilemma - she has made videos at my home that I want deleted. I've been wanting them deleted for awhile now but thought the whole account will be soon so it will be taken care of. How do I approach this situation? SO is clearly useless so I want to take matters in my own hands. If she brings the iPad, do I explain what I want and why? If she doesn't, do I call up BM? I don't want pedofiles seeing my house and the layout of it or risk having my child on these videos. I just think it's all gross! 
 

Also, just wanted to vent because I'm so sick and tired of my SO, who doesn't parent his daughter either. He won't have her delete the account himself, he leaves it to BM, who doesn't care to parent either. Both of them suck and he doesn't understand that this small issue now at 8 will be monumental at 13 and her bad influence won't be welcome in my home around my 2 young DD.