I'll try to be brief and include a lot of pertinent information.

This is about a coworker/friend's situation. I've been sharing what I've learned here and my own experience but we've moved into new territory.

Coworker's husband has full custody of children. Mother walked out years ago and was not in communication at all until co worker entered to picture.

Mother has visitation only no custody.

Mother's own family testified against her in court for full custody to be given to dad.

Mother has been doing visitation since co worker entered picture so a couple years now. The mother has two other young children with man she ran off with. 

Mother just this year has tried to commit suicide, and is super high conflict. She lost the youngest of co workers step kids and had to have K9 track him this year also on her visitation weekend. She ran from another county due to pending DSS situation where one of the new kids was found in the middle of the road at night.

Issue is the last visitation coworker's SKs attended, Mother was sleeping, Step Dad playing video games. Eldest SK goes into room of little kids and they are all touching each other with no clothes on the bottom portion. Eldest SK goes to Step Dad he brushes her off and tells her it's normal and continues to play video games. 

SK has been struggling and this pushed her over the age. When she returned home after visitiation she confesses to cutting herself recently and then out comes this story.

Coworker and Dad take her to mental health facility to be checked safety plan in effect the whole 9 yards. The kid tells he Dr her mother is her biggest stress factor and she doesn't want to return. 

Coworker and husband have 4 kids total, busy household and now this scary situation to worry about. 

They contact the mom via email and let her know visitiation won't be happening (prior to missed visitation) and explain SK is under medical care etc etc. 

Mom has now filed contempt charges. 

Surely no judge would find this man in contempt right? They have all documentaiton of communication and Dr. paperwork .

Any thoughts would be appreciated as they are already stressed and worried about this kid and have pantry locked drawers in kitchen etc locked and going to a million appointments on top of running a house with 3 other children. They didn't need this too.