Suggestions on how to PROVE SD19 has moved out from BMs
DH has a third daughter that is almost 19 that he has not seen in two years(long story). We Unfortunately live in NY and child support goes to 21. The other two step kids told DH SD18 moved in with her BF five months ago and has not come back. They also said she has a full time job working at Walmart. SD18 has been dating this same guy since she was 15. Of course BM did not say anything to DH as in NY child support only goes to 21 IF the child is still living with the Custodial parent.
So does ANYONE has any Suggestions on how to prove this in court as BM will never provide this information willing? Is there a way to find out where SD18 is living? Other step kids know where she lives but not sure HOW we could present it to them to get the information out of them. Thoughts on that would be helpful also. I've looked SD18 and BM up on Facebook but they are no fools. Both have their profiles locked down Tighter than Fort Knox. They even made their friends list private.
I suggest
Looking at the boyfriend's info. Look him up, find his address, look at his Facebook. Intelius is a good website too. Or, just get the boyfriend's address and file court paperwork stating that it's your belief SD lives there and has a full time job.
Don't use the other skids as spies.
Hire a PI. They'll likely do a deep dive on the internet and some surveillance. If they get proof, it will be money well spent.
We live in NY too, and I
We live in NY too, and I think we would absolutely hire a PI if we thought SS20 moved out of BM's (unfortunately, he's too much of a Mama's Boy to cut the apron strings).
Or create fake social media accounts to follow her and the BF and see if you can get information that way.
I agree with the PI.
I agree with the PI.
Another idea is sending a letter to her RESTRICTED certified mail to her BF's address. She has to be the one to sign for it. Her BF or other roommate can't sign acceptance. We did this for BM at the house she doesn't live at. The acceptance or lack of acceptance was proof for the court to make her give us her updated address on record, which we already knew anyway, it was just calling her out on another lie in court.
If SD signs for it, it would be proof that she lives there.
It doesn't directly prove
It doesn't directly prove that sd19 moved out but your husband could reach out to his daughter and offer to give her a portion of the cs directly if she helps by providing proof she doesn't live with BM any longer. Obviously this works best if BM and SD don't have a good relationship.
Private investigator. Get a
Private investigator. Get a killer attorney. It may cost more to prove than DH would pay over the final possible two years of CS but... I would willingly pay far more than the CS amount to provide the lesson to BM and SD that manipulative crap will not be tolerated.