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Does anyone can tell me this is normal or not?

Ploy's picture

My husband has a daughter and she right now gonna has 14 years old soon. I and my husband did not live together since we have married because of our work. So we only can see each other every two or three months. Sometimes when I go to visit my husband, I always meet his daughter also and every time she always lacks of respectfully to me. For example; when I cut the carot, she not even want to help she only sit and look but she also say something like "I know how to cut it more easily than what are you doing right now "

I think it's kind of strange. I don't expect that she would help me but I think she should shut up sometimes and also when she want to leave. She would not say bye to me. 

 

Anyway she still sleep on the same bed with my husband. I don't know it's normal or not but I don't think kind of normal. I feel not good for this because my husband always wears only underwear. I know they are dad and kid but I don't like it.

 

what do you think about this?

I try to be positive thinking but sometimes it was too much for me.

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tog redux's picture

For people on Steptalk, it's "normal". Many of the posters here have husbands who sleep with their daughters for way too long, and allow them to be disrespectful to their new wives.  It's not acceptable, though.

lieutenant_dad's picture

To put it bluntly, his wife is his daughter, but he can't have sex with her so he uses you as his surrogate. She gets grumpy when you are around because you are basically the mistress. You distrupt HER life and HER "marriage", not the other way around.

You stop this by divorcing him. You don't live together, you don't have a home together, and you don't even share a bed the few times you do get to see each other. I'm not sure what kind of "marriage" this is.

ldvilen's picture

I had a friend once who had a woman in the military (whom he dated back in high school) ask him if he wanted to get "married," just on the books, so to speak, because that way she'd get more pay.  The deal was that once she got out of the military they'd divorce.  Meanwhile, they could split the difference in pay that she got.

Last I heard, because I had since left the company we both worked at, he was actually contemplating this and going around asking coworkers what they thought about it.  Some, surprisingly, thought it sounded like a good deal, except for the divorce that would be on his "marriage" record.  To me, there was a heck of a lot more wrong with the deal than that, but . . . .

Hope it is not one of those type of siuations?