How to deal with a step daughter ?
I married with a guy who has a daughter. We both stay 8,000 miles far away so we could see each other only 3 or 4 months per time. Every time I go to Germany I have to meet her. She is 12 years old already but she always show up by kissing my husband on his lip even we went to swim, she always hug my husband with her legs the whole time. She tried to show me that she is more important than me and always give me the feeling that I’m a third person.
I come to visit my husband only two weeks but his daughter always comes 2 days a week and spent the whole day together with us. I feel uncomfortable every time when she was there. I just feel like I came here and I want to spend the time as much as I could with my husband.
I think right now she grows enough to know what she should do or shouldn’t do with her dad but she always over reacted in front of me.
Now I cannot accept her and I don’t want to see her.
- Ploy's blog
- Log in or register to post comments
Comments
Speak to your BF about your
Speak to your BF about your thoughts. He probably doesn't see anything wrong with his actions and now is the time to nip this behavior in the bud.
I will try to talk with him about this
I was not sure this is normal what they do together like this in his cultu but I still think it’s not normal for my culture.
You and your husband live 8
You and your husband live 8,000 miles apart? How long has that been going on? Do you plan on moving to where your husband is or him to you?
Right now, she is the more important and active one in his life. If she sees him 2-3 days per week and you only see him 3 months a year, she is the one he is spending time with. If you were living together this dynamic wouldn’t be such a big deal as you would have the other 4-5 days per week just the 2 of you.
She isn't going to just not spend time with her dad while you are there. Also, how old is she? This behavior tends to lead to a lot of marital discourse- I know I would be disgusted to see what you are describing.
I‘m not sure right now about my future
He wanted me to go there and live together with him but now I‘m not sure I could survive there or not if I have to see his daughter many times per week. Sometimes I think should I leave my life here , work, family , friends and so on to see sth like this in the future. I’m scared that if I have discuss with his daughter and I feel like I want to go home.
What should I do right now? I cannot deal with it.