Random stop by the house
This was so random and maddening. This week the kids are with BM. It's been clear that she has difficulty with rules and discipline so ss4 is a total jerk at her house.....since she will give in and he gets his way eventually. A little backstory. SS3 is going through screenings for Autism and getting set up with a speech therapist. A few weeks ago she was allowed to take him to an appt since it fell on her week. Well ss4 threw a fit at the doctors office and hit BM and gave her a bloody lip. So that kind of sums up how she deals with the kids.
Im at work yesterday and I get a phone call from dad saying "guess who just decided to show up at the house". I instantly knew and I was furious. Supposedly ss4 refused to go into school and threw an all out temper tantrum. So her way of fixing it? Coming over to our house, ringing the doorbell and demanding that ss4 tell his dad what he did. He was shocked and told her that she needs to learn how to discipline the kid, and under no circumstance is she ever to just "come by". Thank god he said something.
He can be a handful don't get me wrong, but he's 4 and he never throws all out temper tantrums at our house. He gets timeouts, says he's sorry for whatever got him in time out and then we move on. BM recently moved in with her boyfriend so I'm wondering if all the changes has him acting out. Or she's just a sh*tty parent. I'm thinking the latter.......
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Be prepared for bm to
Be prepared for bm to relinquish custody to your husband.
She does not have legal
She does not have legal custody, just visitation. It's only a matter of time before she goes bat shit crazy and starts drinking again. It's always temporary.
Ugh our BM is like that.
Ugh our BM is like that. Tries every excuse in the book to encourage/manipulate SD into staying with her when things are going good. But then as soon as BM can't cope with the brat's behaviour, she suddenly wants us to have her more and wants our input on discipline. Like she has no idea how to raise her own child and she needs advice on how to do so, even though she thinks she's mother of the year.
She of course said "I am just
She of course said "I am just trying to coparent." Um no there's a difference. Coparent would be letting him know what happened and how you handled it. She uses us as a security blanket because she doesn't know how to make sound decisions with her own children. She's a crappy mom, I won't lie.
That word gets used to
That word gets used to justify all kinds of inappropriate behavior (see thread about it.) It sounds like your husband handled it well. Dealing with this woman who can't handle her own biokid without showing up at Daddy's house is going to be a long road. I hope your husband keeps setting and enforcing boundaries.
Yeah she was all sorts of
Yeah she was all sorts of butthurt that she didn't get the response she desired. Typical.