So for those of you who know we are in final stages of settlement. Hubby transferred all funds for purchase of our home in my country of birth that our 2 kids are going to school in, home is in my name since skids have as per bio mums instructions told him to sell property and transfer into their names only.

well today agent tells me the current owners of home we purchased and supposed to move into early-mud next week has hit a minor hiccup.

Apparently the 80 yr old dad has had his and his wife child (a 45yr old man) and his child whom he takes on custody days, move into their home months ago. Grown arse man has no intentions of moving out anytime soon and the father wants him out on his own sorting out his own shit and being a grown arse responsible man. Wife wants to coddle him.

so current owners are married, not seperated but the husband made it very clear when home was sold that his adult son isn’t moving in, wife wants to coddle him indefinitely.

husband bought a home and in time to settle, the wife purchased a seperate returement home to the husband in a different area that their 45 yr old son will move into with his child to live indefinitely and the husband said the wife can sort this shit out and come back to him when her head is back on straight. Wife failed to appoint a settlement agent (required by law the moment you are purchasing a home), so today she frantically calls agent trying to rush things

we have 2 scenarios now:

1 is she moves into the temporary guest house at retirement home for the next week or 2 while the property settles as someone is vacating (she will need to store her belongings in garage or pergola of home we purchased for a week or two) 

option 2 is settlement will occur on 14th feb, the date we noted incasr any issued popped up our end because we were transferring money from overseas. Any delays beyond that incur interest (approx $135 per day), agent is doing her best to get the wife into the guest house until settlement of her retirement home occurs and see if her belongings can go in storage.

my husband is supposed to be flying out this friday afternoon... that won’t happen unless we have a definite key handover for Wednesday next week

so after the husband and real estate agents and me had a bitch about kids of today so friggin entitled and sponging off elderly parents and having no shame, agent says “parents only have themselves to blame for allowing their kids to be in this situation and enabling this”

i messaged hubby about what happened because hubby excuses his adult kids from being financially dependent on him for the most stupid reasons when they’re perfectly capable being independent and over dramatising how hard life is for them when hubby has 3 minor kids (2 of whom i am the mum of) and his youngest child with ex will be an adult in a few yrs and they’ve made as the only concern of welfare and interests hubby should have in...

agent was telling me this and its like instant steptalk. This isn’t even a blended family or stepfamily situation. But the husband, i have respect for him acknowledging this is so wrong and putting his foot down for his own bio kid and not coddling him but rather telling him to grow the eff up!!!

for those who wanna complain at me why i take issue with skids since hubby paid for a large portion of the home, i’ll be finished with my studies soon and hubby will be aiming to retire around then where i will be main income earner and because he doesn’t trust his kids with ex as they’re actively pressuring him to transfer his property into their name and erase the fact we exist which hubby has told them off for and he doesn’t want me dealing with a crazy exwife and skids making up lies daddy promised this and that property goes all to them only and meanwhile i am dragged up in court with 2 minor kids if he was no longer around.

but yeah i guess its ok you coddling grown ups just because and expect your spouse sucks it up. No spouse really expects this to even be a normal ongoing thing when they’re working towards retirement