So, I guess I reached my threshold. Let my husband after giving it one last attempt to sit down and talk to him about our marriage, kids and finances. His brother had been at our house for a month after husband saying he was only staying there for a weekend. His brother is nice but an ex heroin addict which smokes weed still. As you see my concerns with our kids. When I tried to approach husband he shewed me away saying he didn’t want to talk about anything with me. Mind you, I’ve been trying for 3 months to sit down and talk about “US”. He had been very verbally abusive and blaming our money problems on me. I understood he was stressed and trying to be understanding considering his situation with the ex and having his kids full time. This man had no mercey for me though. He’d been treating me so rude and fighting about something small every time he talked to me. He had deleted his Facebook account which I found very odd but his excuse was that he didn’t want any drama.. Drama from who? So, he recently logged back in and I saw that his and his ex’s (babymama) were friends. This was very recent. This made me check the phone records and noticed that they’ve been texting here and there and talked about 3 times on the phone (about 5 min long)  in the past month. Now I understood why he deleted his account. I never had an issue with her. Now I can’t help not making it a big deal. Again, he lied and told me it wasn’t true when the evidence was right in my hands. I’m sick of feeling like shit thanks to his lack of respect and tantrums. I’ve had enough!!!  Working on me now to be better for my kids. My self esteem has gotten to low dealing with all this throughout the years. This man will never change and for the first time I’m ok with that... Any encouraging words will help from you ladies. You guys have been a huge help throughout this crazy journey