Piss on the floor
When i woke up this morning I stepped into the bathroom... saw piss on the floor.
I go downstairs... say to dh "baby there's piss all over the floor in the bathroom upstairs"
He says "not a chance. It must be drips from when I washed my hands."
I tell him "the sink is dry."
He says "So? It's from washing my hands."
I go on "Ok, but it's yellow...and it's a puddle, not drips."
He says "how do you know it's yellow? The floor is yellow."
(The tiles are a very light beige, almost cream. Seriously, dh??)
So i just say "Ok then...."
He continues "Besides, I already asked him."
I'm staring at him.... "Ok, when?"
He says "7 this morning"
So I look at the stove clock...point...and say "but it's 10am...and you just got caught in your own lie."
He starts ranting about how I'm always trying to pick a fight blah blah blah and his kid didn't piss on the floor and I'm making stuff up....
I tell him that for him to immediately get defensive and angry at my having told him is NOT Ok, and that the bare minimum he could have done was to have a normal fricken conversation about it... like...hey, there's piss on the floor... what? Where?... there... what happened? SS! ... but no...instead get defensive and angry and tell me I'm full of shit because you already asked him.... SOOO many things wrong with that logic!
He stomps towards the stairs still saying his kid didn't piss on the floor, and that I'm always trying to start a fight...So I head out to the garage.
I hear yelling in the house....I ignore. Dh comes out to the garage and mumbles some half assed apology to me because it turns out... there's piss on the floor!
I tell him that it's not like I'm trying to pick a fight by telling him his kid did something... he says I do it every time he's here... so I tell him...it's because every time the kid is here, he does something... just because I tell him about it doesn't mean he gets to treat me like dogshit... he says he apologized... I tell him Yeah, totally half assed..not cool.
He goes back inside.
An hour later he comes back out like nothing happened...tries engaging me in general conversation... nope, sorry... you don't get to be mad at me because your kid pissed on the floor then pretend like you didn't yell at me about it. I'm not a liar...and if you don't like me telling you your kid did something stupid, deal with it and don't take it out on me.
First argument in a long time...I'm still steamed about it. He's still doing his own thing like nothing is wrong.
He DID deal with his kid, though. Who is back at his mother's since 2.
Fricken brat. Fricken DH.
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"Oh dear, it seems like there is pee on the floor...can you clean it up please?"
Obviously he KNOWS his kid did it. Wants you to be quiet about it and silently clean up the biohazard! Disneydads don't believe their WONDERFUL ferals can be passive aggressive. If they are then SM did something to deserve it
This. Wants you to deal with
This. Wants you to deal with it and not say anything. You are forcing him to not be a lazy parent.
I am definitely forcing him
I am definitely forcing him to deal with it.
He's not "generally" a disneydad but he has his moments.
Lol, if I said it that way he
Lol, if I said it that way he'd tell me to clean it because it must be my cat.
Not that my cat has ever peed anywhere....
I feel your pain
I've had almost the exact same conversation. Gone in to tell DH, who has not gotten out of bed yet, that there is pee on the floor. He says it's probably DS. DS is not here. Hasn't been here in a week. His kids are here. But he says, DS is back from camp. Yes, I reply, but his dad picked him up and he's at his dads. DH has the audacity to say that it still could be DS. So I ask if he really is trying to tell me that my ex drove DS out of his way to our house after picking DS up from camp just so DS could pee on the floor and since camp pickup is in the morning that it's gone a whole 24 hours without anyone but me noticing? That it is a fact that BOTH skids like to use that bathroom so it's highly likely it's one of them unless it was him, DH, since I know for a fact it is not me. He started back pedaling but then he hit on that it could be an animal. I told him to just go deal with it.
WTF?
PS: and there was the whole defense/offended mode to deal with since it couldn't possibly be his kids and I'm just looking for trouble and to pick on them, just like is being told to you. Yet I'm guessing at some point when there was a moment you mistook for sanity by your DH, he said to come to you when things happen and he will deal with it. And now you did, and now you pay.
Yeah.
Yeah.
The last time we "argued" was about bandaids.
Dh came to ask me if I'd used a bandaid... nope. He said Ok, I asked why...he said there were 2 wrappers on the main floor bathroom counter.
Nope, not me.
(My kids are at their dad's, by the way.)
A little later I find a used bandaid on the kitchen floor.... ask dh if it's his... no...well it ain't mine, must be ss's and I call ss over to come pick it up...
Dh gets super pissy and tells me it must be one of my daughters' ....
I just said that yes, I'm quite sure they came over this morning to use 2 bandaids and left their wrappers on the counter...and even MORE sure they came BACK and left their used bandaid on the floor.
Ss came into the room and I just said "can you please pick up your bandaid and put it in the garbage? He says "sorry secret!" picks it up, puts it in the bin...I say thanks...and he goes back to play.
Dh was pissy for the next 20 minutes.
Like... it's not a big deal....so the 6 year old (5 at the time) didn't thrown out his age age... he was asked to and he did. Why get defensive and blame teens that haven't been here for a couple days?? He was 5... I don't expect perfection... I expect teachable moments!
What is wrong with these men?
What is wrong with these men? Why doesn't he want his son to learn how to piss in the toilet properly? I don't get it.
He wants to think his brat
is like Mary Poppins "practically perfect in every way" whereas OP's kids are blamed by him for EVERYTHING. Again, he wants OP to silently mop up the biohazard and say nothing.
SS was 4 1/2 when trained...
SS was 4 1/2 when trained....at my insistence.
Has had a few accidents, but nothing unusual. Was clean for about a year...then poop a few weeks ago and piss this weekend.
Now and then a dribble on the seat or a non-flush...
I mean, he's barely 6, doesn't have 2 full toilet trained years behind him.... he's at the stage my kids were when they were THREE.
Dh reminds him to wipe the seat, wipe his butt, wash hands, flush etc... nearly every time.... the kid is so far behind in my opinion, and dh DOES want him to have good hygiene, it's hard for dh to be on top of it I guess
I never hesitate to firmly order the kid back to finish the job
Unless your SS is like 3 and
Unless your SS is like 3 and "potty trained" with the occasional accident... Or is like a 10 week old puppy still learning... There is ZERO reason for there to be piss on the floor... EW!!!
I'm sorry secret... My DH tried to throw me a warning glance this weekend... Had the skids... I don't believe in a lawless home... That's why they came back all messed up... So I mentioned no go on eating on RAMEN on the couch and got the "but we get to be the fun parents." So I pulled him aside and informed him we aren't ruining the couch and my new rug for the sake of being "fun." He wasn't happy. I swear these men can be such babies.
I can’t stand the ‘but I want
I can’t stand the ‘but I want them to have fun’ attitude. My DH does that sometimes & I want to throat punch him when it happens. Seriously dude, you are failing your kids with that stupid mentality. UGH
Secret I hope your DH smartens up. Men can be so dumb about their kids, or themselves.. when we were dating & DH would come to visit I noticed there’d be a patch of pee on the floor sometimes.. I mentioned it to DH & he said there was no way it was him. Ummmmm it’s only me living here & I sit when I pee, so if it’s not you who is it exactly? Unbelievable...
Why is bio mum labelling the
Why is bio mum labelling the young lad with adhd when he hasn’t been assessed properly by health professionals. I do understand it is in no way your fault what BM chooses to do. Or is it a case of he may have ADHD and they are waiting for school reports etc to help them decide. My father in law peed in his own wash basket one night (in his own house) whilst drunk. Men seem to do weird stuff like that sometimes. I don’t like my father in law just in case any of you go oh that’s gross.
I have a whole other blog
I have a whole other blog about it.
She's disneymom to the max and as has her wrapped around all his fingers. He always gets his way with her. Mega deprogramming when he's here.... thankfully he is generally ok here...except when he's not, then he's really not.
You’ve got more patience than me hub handling this
I would have told hubby that he address the piss on the floor with his kid who is feral, and ensure it never happens again and that it is mopped up with disinfectant and then the mop rinsed and dipped in clean disinfectant solution again.
I wouldn’t be tolerating him making excuses and putting the blame on anyone not his kid... the facts point its only him, deal with it!!
I didn't have to tell him
I didn't have to tell him once he acknowledged it Was, in fact, piss.... just like I said. He does clean.
Living in house with all men,
Living in house with all men, if I see it I walk out of the bathroom and yell "someone missed again and better get in there to clean it up"! That starts the not me, not me and all kinds of men stuff between them. Including DH. It turns me from being annoyed by it to laughing. They are cavemen! LOL.
It's cleaned up within minutes.
Even though it's gross, I do
Even though it's gross, I do expect a certain amount of pee around the toilet etc... boys will be boys etc... BUT I ALSO expect them to clean it up.
This puddle wasn't even near the toilet. It was by the door... which is on the other end of the bathroom than the toilet...there's a tub in between...so at least 5 feet away.
SS
is "marking his territory" SS was around this age when he purposely shit all over my house when he didn't get his way. I was trying to break Chef of waking up at 3 a.m. to websurf for toys with his "prince"
"Warning Glances" etc
OH MAN are you giving me FLASHBACKS!!
Sorry to say but I am SOOOOOOOOOOOOOO glad the ferals have PASed out so I don't have to look at the guilty daddy shit or the programming they received every second of the day from the Girhippo 'n' clan!!!!