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Divorce terms finally settled

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Submitted by secret on Fri, 04/15/2022 - 8:17am

At the end of the day, he's accepted an offer I made... which ended up mostly paying his lawyer's bill... we didnt have to go to trial, it got settled in mediation. His lawyer strongly suggested he yake the offer. It was less than half of what id have been legally accountable for if we'd gone to trial and the judge decided not to reduce equalization etc... and the divorce was filed. Waiting for the order.

Update to repo and drama

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Submitted by secret on Mon, 01/17/2022 - 9:42pm

I have a conference set coming up in a few weeks.

I've learned that 3 days after the suv was repo, Mr. Brokeass somehow managed to make the payment on the outstanding amount.

Not just the approximate 2k owing in back payments... but the full balance. It's paid off. Where 20k came from, I'll probably never know....  for fun, I took a drive by his baby mama's house... there the SUV was. 

Huh.

Funny how that works.... if he came up with 20k to fully pay off the balance, obviously he has money and doesn't need "support"

Repo and drama

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Submitted by secret on Fri, 10/22/2021 - 3:12pm

Well, the day came when they repossessed the SUV. I knew it was coming, so I already had a back up plan... no skin off my back for that.

However.. since I'm now making claims of my own, I need to file an amended application.. and I need consent to do so... and I'm not getting it. Denied.

I've now hired a lawyer... 

It's a shitshow. The other lawyer demanded I return the suv to him.. but.. um.. well, I don't have it. Lol

Divirce delays...how fun.

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Submitted by secret on Mon, 10/04/2021 - 11:54am

I should have just had everything court filed back in June. I didn't..  I made him an offer...and told him to take it to a lawyer. He didn't. So I filed through the courts, and had him served.

I walked him through everything he would need... Financial info, etc.. I had even packed everything he'd need into the same box as his regular-use items so they'd be handy...

He was supposed to respond to my filing by Sept 30

Pick up your stuff and more SUV dramalama

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Submitted by secret on Sat, 08/07/2021 - 6:49pm

Exh came by today to pick up some stuff. He was supposed to do it by end if July, but something came up for me and I had to go shoot some extra film scenes last weekend, so I told him he could come by over the course of last week and/or this week.

He was going to come Tuesday... he didn't. THEN Thursday.. but decided to drop off some boxes Wednesday instead.. was going to come by last night and didn't... finally showed up at 1:30 today.

I've gone and kicked dh out

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Submitted by secret on Wed, 07/21/2021 - 4:53pm

Long story short.. I found out DH had been snorting cocaine and racked up 5k debt for it.

We'd been on the rocks since August last year.. it got kind of worse through all the ss BS in the fall.. and come December... I was finito.

It did take me until May to get my ducks in a row... then I left for a glorious 12 day trip to Michigan at the end of May. The hoops I had to jump through, pandemic wise, to take this trip was nutso bananas.. but while I was down there I did a lot of thinking.

The visit

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Submitted by secret on Mon, 10/19/2020 - 7:09pm

Allegations were that apparently we throw plates that smash everywhere when we fight... and that we fought so hard at our trailer that cops were called

1) nope...no plates thrown. My kids laughed at her. When we fight, it's usually at night and in the garage...or through text so little ears don't hear.

Conversation this morning

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Submitted by secret on Mon, 10/19/2020 - 8:49am

This morning I asked DH if he had talked to ss over the weekend about what might have been said in school.. his response was that he did, and that the kid said "No dad...I didn't say anything...not about you!"

Now dh can be stupid.

I don't know if any of you picked up on that...and maybe it's my brain going in overdrive...

"Not about you!"

But about SOMEBODY... right? 

Update to my blog on the school working with Crossroads

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Submitted by secret on Thu, 05/07/2020 - 6:59am

Crossroads is a mental health organization that (among other things) helps deal with difficult children.

In doing so, they offer "parenting classes". 

Dh is "going to them"  (through zoom type programs), and I'm sitting in.

Collaborative problem solving.... dh has finally realized what I've been telling him all along.... he doesn't dick around with me as much as with him because I naturally "parent" the way they're teaching dh to "parent".

I say "parent", but what I really mean is the way we handle situations. 

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