My SS has never once given me anything for Mother's Day. Bupkis.

But I don't expect it because I'm not his mother.

It was wrong for DH to force this.  And you want DH to move away from her???

If you cared about her I could see how that could be hurtful. But you don’t care about her (and she knows you don’t) plus you aren’t her mother, so who cares what she gave you. 

Complain because she asks you to do her nails.

Complain because she doesn't want to go get her haircut or whatever.

Complain because she asks where a sweater is.

Complain because she literally is just breathing in your vicinity.

Sure, it's expected you would complain that she gave you a Mother's Day card and that someone in her life (be it your useless DH or her grandmother) actually do something nice to consider you a maternal role in SD's life. 

If you were my SM I wouldn't want to give you anything either, because you seethe resentment. 

Why did you want her to move out of state with you guys again?

I haven't gotten a call or message from my own BM today.  Heck I haven't gotten a call in a year and a half.  Ever since she messaged me on the 26th of December saying that "she didn't have time to call or message me on Christmas."  They stayed home...

She's not your daughter and you don't like her anyway.  Where exactly do you want to be with her?

If you don't hate this girl you damn sure resent her for existing. She could be a saint and you resent her. Maybe your H can do something to lose all visitation and she'll never bother you again.

Your DH is an idiot if he said it's the thought that counts in this situation.  Because while you got a physical item, there was no thought put into it by SD.  SMH.  Your SD figured out a way to ruin a mother's day card, but frankly, I can't imagine you really care.

I am fortunate enough to have young skids with whom I have a good relationship.  It's BM's weekend, but she brought the girls by our house today to give me a card and a present.  Being appreciated goes a long way and because I am appreciated I'm willing to do a lot for the skids.  Sadly, I think that's missing in your relationship with your SD, and forced gifts or cards don't make one feel appreciated.

I don't think it's FORCING as much as it is TEACHING.  When my son was growing, you I had him get gifts for both his father and stepmom.  

At first I paid for all of the gifts.  Once he started receiving an allowance, I would contribute to what he saved.  None of this was done to FORCE him into acknowledging others.  It was done to teach him that gifting is a two way street.

Did he goof from time to time on the gift giving?  Hell yeah, I have received a few when he was a kid that made me say WTH.  But those misses(and hits) taught him lessons about giving.  He always calls and sends his dad and SM gifts on their birthdays, Christmas and Mother's/Father's Day.

Your DH could have always helped his oldest daughter or at least checked and viewed pre-presenting the card that she had something to give . It's not BM's or GBM's fault her father, your DH, didn't help and/or encourage her. I assume he did something for you in the way of your new baby and Mother's Day. 

This kid is raised by losers so she has not been taught how to give presents. It’s her parents responsibility. When your DH got his gift for you for mother’s day, he had to also guide SD in her gift giving. He was hands off as always. Do take it up with him. 

You are a glutton for punishment! She gives you her @ss to kiss and you still persist with taking her out for mani/pedi's and getting something to eat. Why do you put yourself out there KNOWING she doesn't give a sh!t about you??? You bring this on yourself with expectations from a child that uses you.