Congrats ILD!! 

That sucks to be annoyed at such a wonderful time in your life 

Just enjoy your baby girl!

Ill tell you what my mom told me 24 years ago when I was ready to quit breastfeeding after a week or less. She said give it til he's 2 weeks before you quit. Great advice. I nursed him 13 months into my next pregnancy and then nursed my lil guy for 10 months. Saved me lots of money and it was so convenient and good for baby.

Congrats and hope you can ignore the little snot. Tell her if she has nothing nice to say, please dont say anything...what do you care if BMs family thinks your baby looks Asian. They dont need to say anything about your lil one

Wonderful news, so happy for you!

Congrats & enjoy your little tiny precious beautiful sweet amazing baby! 

I just had a little girl too, November 5th. Soooo in love with her. She’s amazing. I hope you have as good a time, as I have. Once I got used to no sleep, she started sleeping more  I think girls sleep better than boys, as babies  Maybe that’s just my 2! Just remember this stage is so quick, definitely stop to enjoy it  Take lots of pictures too  You’ll always be glad to have them 

Id say don’t worry about SD right now, but I’d be giving you advice I’d never personally keep. Maybe give yourself 10 minutes a day to think about the crap, then bow to set it aside so you can focus on your beautiful baby girl. BTW, nothing wrong with looking Asian, Asian women are coveted by a lot of men. Absolutely nothing wrong with it. I think Asian women are beautiful, as are Asian babies, so even though it was meant to be rude I’d take it as a compliment. You always could’ve come back with, “hmm I was just noticing that the 2 of you look a lot alike for 1/2 sisters”, lol. I’d go there if she comments negatively about looks again, like “I think she looks just like you (even if it’s untrue)”.

Keep in mind you’re hormonal. I always get pissed at someone after having a baby. Usually it’s a nurse waking me at the hospital, after just having a baby, for the hundredth time that night to check my blood pressure. I always feel so much worse at a hospital because of the lack of sleep. Anyway, congrats again. She is perfectly sized. 

My baby looked Asian when he was first born because of his hair and eyes...he didnt at all within a week. Babies eyes usually look squinty from being all puffy from amniotic fluid. Nothing to worry about, Asian babies are cute anyway but she probably wont look like it if she isn't.

My SD showed zero interest when my son was born. Walked into the room and immediately started talking about herself and then stood there with a shocked look on her face when none of the relatives there paid attention. I dont see what the point even was in her showing up. 

Anyway, congrats and enjoy the new little one. Try not to let SDs crap get to you too much. 

Congrats! 

Ignore SD and focus on your new little one. Breastfeeding is hard work, but as mentioned, give it 2 weeks at a minimum before you call it quits. If you're on facebook, join the group "milky mamas" for great advice. Be careful pumping this early on. Ideally, you want to wait 4 weeks or so because breastmilk is all supply and demand. If you pump too much while breastfeeding early on, you risk creating an oversupply - which means all sorts of clogs and mastitis. 

Also, because breastmilk is all supply and demand, make sure you're not replacing feeds with DH giving a bottle too often at the beginning. You will lose your supply quickly if you're giving bottles instead of nursing. If you give a bottle, pump at the same time to remind your body to make milk.

I know, this makes it pointless to give bottles because you have to get up and pump anyways, but it's only while your milk is regulating for the first few months. I waited until about 4 months or so to have DH feed a bottle at night once a week or so, so my supply wasn't impacted. 

Also look up "clusterfeeding" because it will save your breastfeeding relationship to understand it. Newborns often clusterfeed (where they feed for like, 2 hours at a time, than 30 minutes later, they want back on) and it makes mom think she doesn't have enough milk. This is where a lot of moms turn to formula with good intentions. 

Babies clusterfeed to keep your supply up and even increase it right before growth spurts. Newborns will clusterfeed constantly and it does NOT mean you don't have enough milk. If you have any questions, join milky mamas on facebook or message me! We're going on 16 months of breastfeeding

I can't imagine a more intense, close bond than the one that comes from EBF. It's so, so hard, especially because nighttime is mostly on you, but have DH get up and help with diapers or just spend time with you while you're sleep deprived in the middle of the night sometimes. I found bedsharing incredibly helpful because I don't have to get up a million times a night. There are safe ways to bedshare, just look them up if you're interested. 

Congratulations on her arrival!  If you are still having BF issues, please contact a lactation consultant or the LaLeche League.  My youngest was a NICU baby. He was bottle fed breast milk when I was not there to feed him (c-section and living in a hotel because they ran him to Pensacola).  He had latching problems because of the bottle.  My lactation consultant was able to help by giving us a syringe with a very small line attached to get the taste of the milk in his mouth so he would understand what to do next.  Enjoy her <3

Huge congrats ILD!! You must be so in love, enjoy every minute with your beautiful girl!

The Asian comment was made out of spite & jealousy, and who cares if she does look Asian anyway. Some of my best friends have Asian babies & they’re the cutest little humans ever. Ignore SD & focus on your lovely daughter :)

Congratulations! There is nothing like the smell and sweetness of a newborn! Soak it up momma, it goes by way too fast.

I had a terrible time breast feeding. Check with your hospital and see what programs they have with the lactation consultant. When I had my daughter we lived in WA. The consultant actually came to my house 2-3 times a  week for like a month to make sure I was doing well with it. She was AMAZING!! I don't think I could have done it without her. She also helped when I needed to step up my milk production both times. 

PS- Don't worry about SD. Hopefully for the next few months, when you are in the throws of life with a little one, she will spend the time in her room and just letting you enjoy motherhood!

How wonderful that you have your own little bundle of love. 

When I had my first baby, my SD told me that BM said that was the ugliest baby she ever saw. Stepdaughter showed her mother a picture of the baby. What a bitxh! Lol

Hang in there with the breast feeding. I’d be too embarrassed to admit to how long my kids breastfeed. *biggrin* But I do recall some great discomfort with the first one. Took some time to toughen up the nipple.

Good Luck! 

What an awesome time for you - enjoy.

I kinda had a little chuckle - until I read your responses. You see, my DH is full-on Filipino! And my eyes (Ima white girl) are "chinkier" than his (his words). Toxic Troll is full on white as well, so people always think that I am munchkinds mother. LOL. So the Asian comment, to me, didnt seem like it was a big deal, especially since there is some asian in your backgrounds.

But anyways - your baby sounds adorable!

It is a pity for children who are manipulated by adults and try to do something behind their backs, they write or manipulate here (do not give toys because they were donated by an unpleasant person), but the child does not understand the parent's anger even if a stranger would give the toys. Surely you need psychological help and you need to talk to your husband and not write here. Take and install baby monitor http://safebabymonitor.com/best-wifi-baby-monitor/ with Wi-Fi function and watch everything that happens or put your husband in charge. Let him deal with the children, especially if he doesn't react in any way. After all, if you have no bird's rights in this house, set communication limits. Does your child need it? Does his daughter have to do something in your house and don't mess around…?