If you could say what you really think....
DH is out for the day and SD(almost 17; by the way I love saying ‘almost 17’ as gives me hope this Hell is almost over).
I tried chatting to SD just now but she provided sullen, mono-syllabic answers in the quiet voice of a mouse. Ok then, I just won’t speak to you, you horrendous, stinking little bastard.
If she only knew what my inner monologue was screaming, she would hear this:
’Here’s a great idea! Get the f**k out of my house! Go and live with your disgusting mother and your ahole brother. The very sight of you and the imposition of having you living with me is sickening. I’m about to have a baby and NO I HAVE NOT and WILL NEVER forgive you for pulling a sickie to get out of school as I was in an Uber coming back from the hospital after a miscarriage and D&C and I then had to pick your lying ass up when I was SIDEWAYS with grief and pain you attention seeking f**kwit. So you know what you can do?! Cut the sh1t, you nasty little b1tch’.
If only we could say what we really think, even for 1 day. It would be glorious.
Yes, it would be glorious!
Yes, it would be glorious! Only my SD is still too young and, guessing by her actions, too stupid to understand it anyhow.
Sometimes
I write it out then toss it or if I have a fire going I put it in there. It helps.
I would say "haha SS37, how
I would say "haha SS37, how does your karma feel? You tried to break us up so your Dad would come and help you with your enmeshed mother who has dementia. But instead Karma led your wife to another guy and your second marriage is in the crapper.
You've treated your Dad like crap for 20 years and I pray your kids treat you the same.
I hope you meet the woman of your dreams and I hope your kids hate her guts.
Meanwhile your Dad and I are taking my big retirement and pension and moving somewhere awesome never to see you again.
Good luck with wife #3, the stats are not in your favor.
Gold!
Brutal but I bet entirely justified.
All the same everywhere
Hi
I am so glad I found your forum! I am a Russian lady married to an Englishman with two daughters, both of them are over 30.
We are married for over 6 years and are living far from UK. But still the same problems. I just simply can't see them after their last visit with their boyfriends. They were drinking everyday and the final point was when one of his daughters shit over our bathroom because she was so drunk she could not find the bloody toilet! The shit was everywhere including her underwear, our towels, floor. Another bathroom was occupied by her boyfriend.
The communication between us has been interrupted for a while after that disgusting visit. There were other visits before that, which were not very nice with quite a lot of alcogol, but I could tolerate them somehow.
They going to visit again this year. I feel like i'd rather get divorced then to see them and their boyfriends again.The boyfriends are already different but looking on Fb - still same type.
Why on earth are they always comming to our house with their boyfriends? When there are plenty of hostels in our town.The boyfriends could stay there! Oh yes, their boys can stay in their Daddy's house for free!
Anyway, yeasterday I've been reading once again on Russian forums about relationship with adult SD. And today I've found this ST. Different countries, the same problems...
At least, I am not the only one who would like never see again SDs. This is a relief.
I am sorry but I dislike them very much.
So basically he had to go to
So basically he had to go to Russia in order to find someone who is willing to put up with his horrible kids. My prediction is that marriage won't last either. Give it time.
adult stepkids
What concerns me is how many posts there are on this site regrading difficult adult stepchildren.
I have a SS who is nine and I always fantasize about the day he leaves and goes to college, but now I am concerned that things wont necessarily be better when he becomes an adult.
I am sad to say that unless
I am sad to say that unless things change while they are still growing up and in the "learning stage" it is quite possible step-kids grow up to be a problem forever!!! 26 now and 28 and yup still a HUGE problem they act like they are 16 .... and the mother enables it!!!
I feel the same jojo. But I
I feel the same jojo. But I will also say I'm an adult skid myself and I'm really weirded out by alot of those posts. I can't imagine wanting to be that involved in my parents' relationships. Or at all really.
If I could say what I really
If I could say what I really think for a day...
Dear SS and SD you have treated your father like absolute garbage for most of your lives even when he was the only one there to take care of you because your sorry excuse for a mother couldn't be bothered to raise the children she birthed.
I honestly am so incredibly happy and relieved not to have either of the two of you in my life because the two of you are truly despicable, selfish creatures who are totally enveloped in your own wants with no consideration of others at all.
It amazes me everyday that my youngest SS, the one my SO raised knowing he wasn't his, is the most loving, caring, sweet, grateful boy you could imagine-especially to his father...and yet the 2 of you can't be bothered to talk to him without rolling your eyes for the perceived 'betrayal' of having me as a SM.
The truth is the 2 of you were horrible all along. Long before me. You've always treated your father like shit and now you two think you have justification for your actions.
You dont.
I am not and will not be an excuse.
Grow up. Be decent human beings for once in your life
God forbid I were ever to tell the family of everything I know the 2 of you have done....
Well if we are all saying what we want to say:
Dear DH, his family and SD,
Before I met you morons I wanted to adopt children and thought that a biological attachment wasnt necessary. I had room in my heart for all children and really wanted to have bios and adopteds. I never thought about a step kids but didn't think it would be too difficult. Never in my life did i imagine that a step kid would be the line in the sand.
Nevertheless, I can't let your simple ways and common actions stop me on the road to where I am going in life. My story doesn't stop here with you. But yours might.
LetLoveGrow.
I only need a few words
Your father married me because we are best friends who talk, laugh and love with passion and vibrancy. He left your mother for another woman (not me) because in his words she is boring, pathetic and dumb. You and she need to get over it and move on! Oh and SD you are your mother all over, your husband thinks so!
I would love to tell jobless
I would love to tell jobless stoner living with mommy ss33 "Time to get off the tit!"
Too funny
I joke with DH that BM still breastfeeds SS18... Grow up you little prick.
"Killjoy, when your pretty
"Killjoy, when your pretty little friend sleeps over, and she undresses in front of you, does she know what a pervert you are? Does she know you abused my granddaughter? When you tell her what a mean stepmom I am, does she believe you? I bet not. Because she's met BM, and she's met me, and seen all I did for you before you broke the camel's back, and I bet she sees you for the demented jerk you are."
So sorry Ispofacto
That is just terrible about your granddaughter, I am so sorry that you have to deal with that.
It is terrible that you still have to have him in your life at all after something like that.
Hate
So much hate. I feel sorry for all of you.
Your BM Only
slip is showing
Why did YOU have to pick her up???
My heart felt condolences for your loss and what you went through..... I am so sorry for you ...
While I don't know your story...
Why did YOU have to pick her up???
I would not have picked her up or even considered it given what was going on. You were having your own emergency, don't they have a next in line if you can't pick her up? If it were me she would have sat there until her father could get her or someone else but certainly not me in that situation. She would still be sitting there as far as I am concerned!!
If I could go back in time
There isn’t a cat’s chance in hell I would pick her up. DH was getting slammed at work with no way of leaving that particular day otherwise he would have been with me at the hospital.
If I could replay it, I would have flatly refused.
Dear SS22 (AKA The Sh*t stain
Dear SS22 (AKA The Sh*t stain),
You entitled, cowardly, balding, ugly manchild PR^CK!! You punk-ass BI^CH!!! How dare you come into my home, pick up a drug habit, steal from me and your dad, pawn our belingings for drug money, have our home searched by police, and after you have been charged with multiple felonies on your little crime spree and are awaiting sentencing, after we spent thousands of dollars we DIDN'T have just bailing your stupid, loser ass out of jail over and over, you have the nerve to start doing drugs again in my f*cking house?? I told you, you good-for-nothing waste of space and oxygen- you will NOT do your disgusting drugs in my house. How dare you disrespect me? All you are is a loser. It's all you will EVER be. Just a pathetic, moochy, freeloading resource suck who contributes nothing to the world. I can't stand the sight of you. You are just like your pitiful, piece of sh^t mom- a useless, flea-ridden ghetto loser criminal. You think the world owes you something? You think I won't throw your imbecile ass out on the street? Try me, bitch. You make me sick. You can't go to prison soon enough for me, and I hope they throw away the key.