Well, it has happened. I knew it would happen eventually, and was right! Toxic Feral Eldest has now had a falling out with her mother, Toxic Troll, over money owed for rent and for rides to her work (TFE doesnt drive at age 19.5 and would uber, so Toxic Troll has been her uber). TFE SD19, texted her father, DH, after a long silence, accusations of abuse and then ignoring during Munchkin SD12 pickups, last night. It was a rather long text, summarized by saying that her mother is going to boot her out of the apartment they share, and that her mother has been "draining her bank account", with demands for money (because like, it costs money to live. Sidenote: I am surprised at this, because previous to living with her mother, TFE has been living on her own with friends. Perhaps for free? Perhaps thats why no more living with friends is happening)

He responded by saying he doesnt think her mother would boot her out of the apartment. Then DH texts TTroll and asks what is up with TFE?

Another long text, esentially saying that rent is overdue, and they may lose the apartment because she is not getting enough money from her daughter, and that her daughter is calling her rude and salty (another word for b!tchy. Oh REALLY? Someone calling you SALTY, BM???), and that her daughter doesnt realize how much money it costs to just live, and that her driving TFE around is saving her hundreds of dollars, that TFE has shown zero interest in getting her drivers license, and that she, Toxic Troll might have to take out a payday loan...

Like he cares.

Then around 4 am, I hear DH's phone buzzing, and sneek a peek. Its Toxic Feral Eldest saying that she is short the cash for rent, can he give her $400. I happen to know that he doesnt have the money, and I just started my new job, so I dont have the money. So I guess that lets us off the hook? 

And this is after all the crap that she put us through, and all the angry texts accusing her father of abusing her, and her sister, all the lies, and accusations against other family members, after trying to pit her mother and sister against me, after her pretending to be ok with me, all the while harboring resentments and hatred for me. DH agrees that he needs to not be involved in her toxic modalitites, but what can he really do, thats his kid, when all is said and done.

If they continue their relationship, after her breaking her silence (after no money given, its likely he wont hear from her again for at least a while...), it will definitely not happen in my home, as it is now my home (especially since my parents bought it last month, and we will purchase in a few months...)

I am experiencing what many here have - the returning prodical Skid, who upsets the peace and tranquility of homelife, asking for money and help, perhaps a place to live. Although its unlikely, for us, because, you know, I am a crazy rude b!tch, and installed a large fish tank and a bunch of furniture, to the point it couldnt possibly contain a bed and dresser (no money for it anyway. Right now) I am wondering about the future. TFE will try to manipulate DH into feeling sorry for her, playing victim, and then trying to make him feel like a terrible father. He knows deep down he is not and was not, but they like to pluck the heartstrings dont they?

With my new job and the home purchase, I will have a bigger stake in things. I will also have more leverage. I am hoping the day will NOT come where DH sais that Toxic Feral Eldest is asking if she can move back into her old room. I will need the strength to say no, of course. backed by all the memories and blogs here, of how she verbally spewed hatred at me and then accused me of abusing her. By yelling through her bedroom door during an argument.

Silence has broken - like the first morning!