More Weird Crap BM Says

I really think our BM is crazy. She has been making all these weird statements about my pregnancy. She told my DH that she hopes our baby looks like the SDs so all his kids look like her and him *bad*, Then yesterday, she called my DH about Christmas and decided to tell him that he needs to realize that our baby (mine and his) creates a tie between her and him forever. WTH??? My DH asked her what that meant and she said that our baby will be siblings with her kids and that means that she will always be his family.

Ugh, this woman just disgusts me. No, my baby will not be related to her in any way. Luckily, my DH put a stop to it. He told her that she is right that the baby will always be a sibling to the SDs, but it is in no way a tie to her. And if he has his way, not only will she never have contact with this child, but she won't ever lay eyes on her either.

She got all upset by this and started asking why he hates her, to which my DH hung up the phone. So much for trying to have a civilized conversation about travel plans. Does anyone else's BM act this unstable? I just can't imagine hanging on to my exH this way. Maybe its just pregnancy hormones but her always trying to insert herself into our family really pisses me off.

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That is disgusting. How does

That is disgusting. How does his child with another woman mean any form of connection to her?? Just.... Wow.. Our BM is too prideful to say some bullshit like that.

Exactly! My exH is expecting

Exactly! My exH is expecting a baby with his new wife. I would never think something like that. And if I said something like that to him, he'd probably look ay me like I grew a second head.

Oh... oh just wow... That is

Oh... oh just wow... That is like off the rails crazy talk. Make sure that you aren't alone with her ever while you are pregnant. That talk just reminds me of news stories where pregnant women get kidnapped and the baby stolen from the womb stuff. Giving me the shivers, I can't even imagine!!

Ew. It sounds like BM is

Ew. It sounds like BM is desperate to grasp at ANYTHING to keep a tie to your DH.

Could she have meant that it

Could she have meant that it ties YOU and her because you have children who are siblings? Why would DH having kids with someone else tie him any more than he currently is? Yuck and weird. Does she normally say weird things like this?

That sounds like someone who isn’t stable, and I certainly would be putting alarms on the house, etc.

BM went through a period for

BM went through a period for about a year (the year we were married before she knew about the wedding) where every time DH would drop off SS (CO requires him to walk ss to the door) BM would comment "I want your sperm!", "you won't even have to pay for it, I just want a little girl!!", "SS needs a blood sibling!!" to DH in front of SS. Her logic was SS was so well behaved and adorable that she needed DH to create another "perfect child". That is the only time she ever acknowledged DH existence as a father, otherwise it's always "MY baby". Creeped me out, almost wished DH didn't tell me about it. In the same year she told DH that if he ever had children with me she would never let SS meet them and would leave the country. BM mood swings will give you whiplash sometimes lol

Wow, she is quite delusional.

No its not pregnancy hormones

No its not pregnancy hormones. BM sounds like like she doesn't have it all up there and I'd recommend you and the baby keep far away from her crazy @ss. Who the heck thinks of sh!t like that? She's trying to make a connection where there isn't one. She's sick and its creepy!!!

Frankly, DH should just

Frankly, DH should just ignore her entirely, not even respond the way he did, because that gave her the attention she is craving from him.

Early on in our relationship, BM would do that "you hate me" stuff to DH, who at first tried to be civil, but then just ignored her. He needs to be totally business-like with BM and ignore all talk that isn't directly related to the care of the kids.

DH shouldn't be talking to

DH shouldn't be talking to her at all. Written only contact is the way to go, and then he can completely ignore stupid crap like this.

So in other words she cant

So in other words she cant cope with him having a kid with someone else and this is the only weird twisted way she could make herself matter in this situation in her head. What a weirdo. BM here does the opposite here does the opposite and pretends our DS doesnt exist. Like literally stares at the ground instead of looking at him if I have to talk to her when I'm holding him lol.