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I think I should become a career bm with al the money she makes

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Submitted by PinkShorts on Wed, 09/19/2018 - 8:53pm

Bm and dh divorced in 2010. Since then dh has paid 1,000 a month for child support. We provide medical, dental and life insurane. We also split any extra school, sports everything fees. We also provide all shoes and buy majority of clothing. When the divorce was finalized there was 3 children, one has since been aged out. 

Here is the thing: the child support calculation is based on us having them only every other weekend. In reality we have them 50/50. And always has! Dont ask me why DH signed this damn paperwork because I dont know. Bm literally makes 500 dollars every week she has skids. That's 250 a week per child. Jesus. 

I know we need to get a lawyer and bring this back to court. We are saving for it. I work, my husband works, bm doesnt. Why is she the only one who doesn't need to provide for her kids? Also I will add that she has a bf that works also. She is literally the only one involved in skids lives that does not help to financially provide. 

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Submitted by justmakingthebest on Thu, 09/20/2018 - 6:56am

I wonder if the BM's we deal with are sisters?? No working, dependent on alimony and CS and boyfriend... Although you get time with your Skids... so maybe not. 

BM was getting 2k a month from DH, not it is down to $547 which is just one of the reasons why we think she has cut us out 100%.... The other is reporting her to the IRS. DH's accountant didn't give him credit for alimony. We refiled and got a couple of big returns. BM didn't claim any of it so now they are after her for that $ too. 

I often tell DH that I really screwed up my divorce with my ex. We were married longer- I requested no alimony. I also split joint marital debt (DH paid it all). I receive $300 less a month that the calculators say I should get in CS. 

I am just not that kind of woman I guess... I don't really understand women that just stand there with their hands out even when they were the one's who caused the marriage to fail!

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Submitted by CLove on Thu, 09/20/2018 - 3:17pm

DH just got hit with a child support modification order. So now he is paying ToxicTroll annually $4,164 income that he is taxed on and she is not. Plus alimony nnual $3,600 - $7,700 of OUR family income goes to ToxicTroll. And she is trying to win a workmans comp case with a payout over 50k. Plus she has retirement, and works for school system with great insurance, and steady paycheck. So, she is effectively making as much as DH, and all she had to do was pop out some kids. Which caused him to feel he had to marry her. 

Kiddos are now "mommas little moneymaker", its a broken system.