SD the liar
sd lies about every little thing. She still won't admit to starting her period even though her mom and aunt found "evidence" that she was stuffing her underwear and then throwing it away.
She lies about her grades even though we can look at them online.
She lied in snapchat about having a twin brother, a barrel racing horse and a goft cart. None is true.
She got her report card and lied to BM about it saying she didn't get it. She went to her grandmothers house and had a fun weekend. She told her cousin while there that she lied to her mom because she wanted to have a fun weekend. She told the cousin that she stays up till 3 am facetiming with her boyfriend and that is why she does so bad in school. She is failing 2 subjects.
BM took her phone and TV away.
She is in trouble at least once a month for lying. Nothing is helping. I have tried to get my husband to consider counseling. He won't.
Summer is fast approaching. I don't know what to do about the period situation. She refuses to admit it even though her mom, aunt, grandmother and dad have confronted her about it. She won't even shave her legs or armpits. In 4 years she will be an adult! How is this normal?
This weekend is her weekend and I dread it so bad! I hate dealing with her lies and drama!
I looked at her grades online..she has a 2.0 GPA. ShE will only be able to go to community college if that continues. She could do better. She just doesn't care at all.
DH is now saying he wants her to go into the military. He thinks they will be able to fix her. Ugh. He doesn't actually want to do anything that may possibly his princess off. You know..like parent her?
Just ranting 
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Oh geez!
Well I would definitely tell your DH that the military will not take someone with such a low GPA. It isn't a facility for kids whose parents won't parent them. Does he want his daughter on the end of a grenade launcher?
I think SFbaby is on the right track. Everytime she says something EVERY TIME you react with "Oh OK." and ignore her. She may prattle on for a while trying to convince you but you respond with :Oh OK."
Maybe she misses out on the next fun activity planned for her grandmothers place as a consequence for lying. Memorial Day? Stay at home. Now if you have to stay home with her do not make a fuss about it. Just act like it doesn't matter to you.
As for the period issue, I remember being in such denial. OK it was for a day or so but this girl has had a lifetime of lying that is only getting consequences now. When she comes over to stay you go into her room or get her alone. You close the door and say "SD I have put a packet of pads on your bed. Please use them as needed. We will refer to them as 'supplies'. When you can use them appropriately and your parents are no longer using up all extra money on new underwear you can move on to tampons which are so much more comfortable. If your underwear gets stained please clean yourself up and rinse the panties out. Then take them to the laundry and spray them with stain remover. Place them in the bucket in the cupboard to wash out later. I always saved my older underwear for that time of the month so if they got too stained I could throw them out. I know this sucks but you cannot get away from this. I will not be talking to your Dad about this because it is between you and me. If you cannot get this sorted out you are more immature than you seem and will have to supervised all summer like a 5 yr old. Your call."
Not sure if there's something
Not sure if there's something else at play... but keep in mind that very often, kids who have gone through traumatic experiences tend to lie about just about everything - because they're creating a world they can control, so to speak.
I mean actual traumatic experiences. Divorce is not one.
Think abuse, or witnessing it.
She could just be so overwhelmed with failing in life that she's trying to make herself seem better off.
Maybe no one has ever 'had
Maybe no one has ever 'had the talk' with her about periods and 'women' stuff? I'm not sure why one would want to hide the fact they have a period unless they don't know what is happening and they are ashamed of it or something? Does she know it's a 'normal' thing that happens to all women? I have no teenage daughters so have no idea!
My SD told my son that she
My SD told my son that she lies to make her life seem more interesting. There are all sorts of reasons that kids lie. Maybe she is just ashamed or embarassed about the period.
I decided to just make sure to disengage as much as possible with SD b/c of lies/manipulation. I also won't leave my son alone with her. I don't trust anyone so comfortable with lying...no matter the reason!