In law drama
My wife complains about her former in laws constantly, espcially her former mother in law who is kind of a negative downer personality but overall decent person and helps with her grandkids often. They have the typical dislike for one another. The latest drama is my wifes daughter (5) didnt want to be picked up by her grandma (wifes ex mother in law) so she cried and cried at pre k. My wifes mother was also there for grandparents day. Wifes mother calls in middle of us having a rare lunch date together in the middle of the work day telling us dramatically for 15 minutes on the phone how 5 yr old is crying and doesnt want to go with other grandma. It basically ruins our whole lunch and wife then turns it into a whole thing about how her former mother in law is terrible and how her ex husabdn is a saint now the blocking her out of his life (her ex husband no longer talks to his parents yet he hangs out at their house everyone weekend, does that make sense?) When I met my wife her ex had abanoned her and left her to raise the kids by herself and was MIA most of the time. At least the mother in law was still present and would help my wife when she needed a babysitter etc. Anyways my wife has turned into a defender of her ex but also doesnt realize how dramatic her own mother is being and how kids that are only 5 are going to cry and get emotional when they prefer one grandparent over another. It happens. It seems like uneccasry drama as usual. Just venting today.
My wife used to defend the SpermGrandHag.
SpermGrandHag makes Medusa look appealing in demeanor and aesthetic. I detest her above all others on the planet.
The SpermIdiot is a waste of subhuman flesh but even he does not register on my SpermGrandHag detestation RADAR.
She would put my wife through the ringer over every little thing that SpermGrandHag wanted regarding my SS. It would get to where my wife would cut her off and then deal only with the SpermIdiot (a total waste of human flesh) until he would whine about having to call the SpermGrandHag for a decision. Then my wife would adopt a "she is better and I feel bad about cutting her out and she is just a grandmother who loves her grandchild.... blah, blah, blah". I would review all of the SpermGrandHag's historical crap and transgressions but my wife would let her back in. Of course instantly SpermGrandHag would immediately try to take a mile and the cycle would escalate and repeat over about an 18-24mo interval.
Until finally my wife just put her foot permanently up SpermGrandHag's ass and kept it there. It was then that the drama in our blended family home decompressed and stayed that way for the most part.
Your wife seems to enjoy
Your wife seems to enjoy drama a great deal.
What did you do while she was yakking it up and sharpening her claws? Does she always treat you so rudely, like a piece of furniture that just sits there?
I think you should have paid the check and quietly left. Actions speak louder than words, and it would do your wife good to see that you have standards for how you're treated. She needs to be shown that she's too complacent and doesn't have you under her paw.
Oh boy...time to pull out
Oh boy...time to pull out some rules.
Sorry about this. I think your wifes mom was miffed that the other Granny was snatching the child for lunch and SHE didnt think of it.
I think the two grannys are
I think the two grannys are in competition with each other and your wife got dragged into it. Lots and lots of drama is heading your way. And don't think for one moment this child doesn't know it. She will play both grand parents.
I think your read of the
I think your read of the situation is right on.
If the ex's mom is good to her granddaughter and helps out when even the father won't, she should be treated with the dignity and respect that deserves. The kid needs a whack on the ass. Telephoning MIL needs to be told to butt out. Your wife needs a whack on the ass to get her priorities straight.
What is it with some people who don't have the brains to be grateful?