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Submitted by gaviotas on Tue, 10/30/2012 - 5:57pm

My SD 6 years old, has selective mutism, under treatment, but not going so well. Several times I tried to convince my husband to change the psychologist with no luck.
She only talks to only one child at school and still does not answer to adults and is isolated in many social activities.
So the girl decided to celebrate her birthday only with her girlfriend and her cousins, instead of inviting the whole class (very common in our city).
I was amazed because I expected the parents to motivate her and invite all her mates at school, but they supported her decision.
May be I am wrong, but due to her social phobia, she should be encouraged to participate and attend birthday parties (she does not want to go to parties either).

I am confused, I know I have no voice in this matter, but I do think this is not the right decision.

What do you think?

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Submitted by StickAFork on Tue, 10/30/2012 - 6:35pm

I think the parents made the right call.

A party with 30 or so kids can be overwhelming for ADULTS. Smile

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Submitted by oneoffour on Tue, 10/30/2012 - 8:17pm

Why would you invite all the kids in her class just because all the other parents do so? IS this little girl like all the other kids? She isn't. And overwhelming her with people she doesn't like or get along with on her birthday JUST to be social and force the issue could only be counter productive.

I am sure you are well meaning but just because all the other parents or city does it doesn't make it a local law or something. Forcing her to socialize with kids in her class may seem like making her face up to reality but she is only 6 and needs to be gently eased into the big wide world. Cousins and a good friend is enough for this year. And she may only have a few close friends all her life. But better to have a few good close friends than 100 somewhat friends who would steal your husband the minute your back is turned. And I suspect she probably doesn't LIKE all the kids in her class.

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Submitted by Disneyfan on Tue, 10/30/2012 - 8:30pm

Parents made the right call.

Kudos to them for teaching their daughter that she doesn't have to follow the crowd.

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Submitted by crystalclear on Wed, 10/31/2012 - 11:45am

The parents made the right call. What good would come from that. That could cause a major set back. My son has autisum. I would never in a million yrs force him into a social setting where he wasn't cofortable.