Dear all,
it seems like it was yesterday I posted for the first time, but years went by and I am still posting about the same topic. I have 3 wonderful kids with my DH, and we are happy, but also I don´t know how to handle SD´s visits.
SD is now a pre teenager and things are not getting better. At home she does not talk, does not respond, no eye contact. Only talks when she needs anything.
I know her since she is 4 yo, at first she was diagnosed with selective mutism, had only a few months treatment.
A couple of months ago, finally DH convinced BM to treat her, she agreed, but told him she will not be part of the process.
After her first session, she seemed to be glad and began to talk to us, only for a few days, and this happened the last 2 weekends:
1- SD enters into the pool (opened the pool gate and entered), completely dressed, the day was cold, and she can´t swim, also inviting her brothers. I saw her, run and asked her to go out, she did not respond, and inmediatly called DH, who was taking a nap.
After my kids were safe, my DH talked to her, and she said she did not understand why we were upset... :jawdrop:
She put my kids in danger and her attitude is risky.
2- She pushed me two times, one in front of her father and at my SIL´s house, she said she did not see me... Come on!! Of course I told her no to do it again, and asked her to apologize. .
3- Yesterday, I checked her communication notebook, and there were several notes from end of September, asking SD to complete homework, and notes about her bad attitude and not studying for several tests. Noone signed, I was the only one checking this notes... OMG, where is BM? and DH lives in his bubble... This is not working, and the really bad moments I spend with SD are getting worse.
I checked the notes because I suspected something else was happening.
Now I don´t know what to do, because I know BM is not taking care of SD (probably she broke up again, not sure). Also, SD living with us 100% will be a nightmare, I will run away in a few days if this happens. I see no way out.