And then there's people like me, who really have no choice but to pick up the slack whether I like it or not.

So apparently CAS has allowed BM her full rights to visitation back and her home has been approved (even though she's really just renting a room at her uncle's house) and she was actually given the okay to have the kids move in with her. She said no. I mean, of course she had some self-righteous bullshit she fed CAS and tried to feed me ("Oh, I just think its better if they stay here with you guys, they've been through enough already, you two can provide better for them than I can, it breaks my heart but I know it's the best option"). So CAS requires at the very minimum we allow her to see the children for one 24hr visit a week. Fridays at 5pm until Saturdays at 5pm. AConvenient for her, because she doesn't drive and would have no way of taking them to school/daycare. Which is probably part of the reason she doesn't want them full time; too much hassle chauffeuring them around. But it's perfectly okay for ME (the only one with a vehicle) to do it for her. All other visitations have to be arranged and agreed upon by the three of us.

It literally drives me insane that all she wants is the fun without the responsibility. Already she's taken SS9 overnight and not SS2, probably because SS9 is self-sufficient and she doesn't really have to watch or pay attention to him. How fair is that? SS2 was pretty upset that he couldn't go too. And we didn't even want her to take SS9 but BM told him he could come sleep over before asking us, got his hopes up so when we said no because he had camp at 9am the next day, he started bawling hysterically. So BM started guilt tripping BF so he finally just said okay. I have a feeling this is how it's always going to be, her using the children as a pawn I get what she wants.

Already today, she's taking the kids to the local pool for a couple hours. Again, all fun - no responsibility. She doesn't give us a dime as far as CS goes, she just works her crappy little job at Tim Horton's, rents a room for $100/month and gets to use all her money for herself and what she wants. Meanwhile I only work part time and BF essentially pays for everything - the two of us, two Skids, third Skid on weekends, two cats, dog, rent, utilities, cable, daycare, gas, etc etc !!!! I fucking hate BM, she's using us to not be a parent. It really infuriates me. Ugh.