When I see comments that are hurtful I try to ignore them or I delete them off my blog. I feel like if I don't have anything to offer, I keep my comments to myself. Other people should try the same. There are a few people on here that are just troublemakers for the sake of being troublemakers. I steer clear of them. They know who they are! Some of them are not step parents at all so they have no idea the struggles we go through with these skids. In the end I know I am a good person and thats all that matters. I won't let a bunch of strangers take me down and make me feel like a bad parent.

RIGHT ON. You are doing the right things!! The problem isn't YOU, it's the resistant SS! I truly feel to anyone who is dealing with a difficult child. You're bound to get blamed for their stupid-ass behavior by people who could never even walk in your shoes!

I will tell u that my son was diffucult and when i went to a behavior mang. Classes i was able to deal with him so better. Its not really you but some kids need to be parented differently as i was great with my dd but son did some of the things you are saying you ss does. He would throw himself on the floor flopping like fish out of water or hed bite himself or he would just look at you and say is that all you got after a spanking.

My point is that some kids are different and you have to parent differently to get the same results of the other kids. And you may noy know what t o differently til you seek perfessianal advise. It was the best thing i did for my son and me.

No matter what, parenting a skid is WAY more challenging than parenting your own or one you lived with from infancy.

There's no pretty or simple way around it---it's a most unappreciated sacrifice and a most criticized role!

Lately, I've decided to try apathy. Trying to not care about the usual emotional shit I feel every day. Trying not to let stupid & rude behavior get to me. Trying not to look at the evil glares. Trying to tell myself I just don't care and I am just waiting out the time until age 18!

Sure, I know even after 18 there are plenty of new & improved issues, but still.....

Count-down is on!

Frustrated you are right. I have to ask op where is this kids dad and why is he not dealing with his son. He should be the one to tell his kid that he has to mind you and if not he will be punished.

After my last post about counting down the days, I went to a website that will calculate the days/hours/seconds for you.
LOL! I have 3,002 days until SD is 18! Seeing a number makes it feel slightly less overwhelming and permanent, LMAO!

2 things

1. come for advice on the internet, you will get it...you take it or leave it...you can't control what others think or say...it just is

2. parenting classes, as well as reading parenting books are NOT just to help the kids, but they help YOU more than anyone...believe me...I keep reading and reading and honestly, it helps ME cope more...so, don't think that they won't help you more...they will help YOU more and save your sanity more than the kids

In the future it's best not to address the subject of corporal punishment on this website. You are GUARANTEED to get someone's panties in a bunch. For future reference here are some other topics that push the hot button and are best kept off your blog (if you don't want to be criticized) If you WANT the honest truth from people, then blog away....

1. Religion
2. Politics
3. Abortion
4. Spanking

... and then there are a few posters, who just enjoy stirring the pot, no matter what the subject is, so just take it with a grain of salt. It's the internet.. nothing personal