So we figured out that SS11 created a different online profile on the Xbox and he also figured out the code we put on there to limit his time. DH finally woke up at this point and the Xbox is gone for the rest of the summer with no access to the internet until an undetermined time (I say never). After this he still tried to sneak his laptop to his room and has manipulated DH's employees to allow him to play on their computer (he has to go to work with his dad on some days because otherwise I might go insane). He has NO remorse for breaking rules, lies with ease, and has never had empathy. My SIL has been working with DH and has voiced her own concerns that SS really does not function on the same level as other people. That made me feel better because I now feel like someone who DH listens to has completely validated me.

Basically I am diagnosing him as a sociopath. I might not be a psychiatrist, but at least now I realize that there is no helping this kid and my only goal at this point is to keep my own children safe. I hope that the age difference is large enough between him and my kids that he will not be able to influence them too much, BS is 2 yrs and BD is 1 month. All I know now is that he will NEVER be sorry for anything he does and no punishment will make him stop sneaking and manipulating. I don't want to leave my DH because I really do love him with all my heart and soul, but I feel like I can totally disengage from SS emotionally because he is not capable of emotion himself. Now when he tries to get a reaction from me he won't be able to. It's a little empowering }:)