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Submitted by stepmom22boys on Wed, 06/27/2012 - 7:09am

BM is freaking our because DH refuses to take steps the weekend of July 6th and keep them until July 10th. Keep in mind this is her weekend and has been scheduled as such for over six months. She told him that she was going to drop them off at our house a few minutes before we get home from work and pick them up late on the evening of the 10th. If she does this, what can we do?

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Submitted by herewegoagain on Wed, 06/27/2012 - 7:13am

Yikes, not much. I would send her a CERTIFIED letter stating that YOU WILL NOT BE HOME AND THAT it is NOT your weekend. If she dares drop them off while you are out, provided you have the written proof she received the letter (get it so that she MUST sign for it), then you can take it to court and show how she puts her kids in danger for her own good.

These women are crazier than I ever thought.

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Submitted by hereiam on Wed, 06/27/2012 - 10:14am

^^^^Completely agree with this.

"we lived in fear of what she could or would do and didn't have the legal knowledge that we have now"

Knowledge really is the power although some of these BM's think that having a womb and custody give them all the power. Not true.

When SD was a minor, I felt like I was studying for a law degree! But it saved my husband money in lawyer fees, let us sleep better at night and kept him from letting BM manipulate and threaten him.

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Submitted by stepmom22boys on Wed, 06/27/2012 - 7:18am

She knows we are going out of town. DH told her over email several times and she replied by cursing him out for going out of town when she wants to do something. She had the nerve to request proof that we are going out of town. DH forwarded her a copy of the flight info from the airlines.

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Submitted by herewegoagain on Wed, 06/27/2012 - 7:25am

Honestly, I would go out of town. Period. Let her deal with the mess. I would let the cops know that YOU WILL be out of town, that she has stated she will do x and that if someone calls stating there are kids alone in your house, that it was the ex who did it. Or heck, just call the kids and tell them "hey, I will NOT be home this weekend because this is YOUR MOM's weekend...I have told her. Make sure she does NOT leave you here. If she drops you off at my house, please know I will NOT be there...so call 911 and let them know".

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Submitted by stepmom22boys on Wed, 06/27/2012 - 7:38am

We have to return home before we leave for our trip. If we get home and get the dogs/bags before she drops them off, I will let DH know to have the steps call 911. I honestly don't think DH will get on the plane knowing the steps are sitting on our front porch. Since our tickets are non-refundable, I might go on our weekend get away alone. }:)

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Submitted by Skidmarks on Wed, 06/27/2012 - 7:29am

What is wrong with these BM's. If its documented that its her weekend, you have the chain of emails stating you will be out of town, she cannot expect you to cancel your plans when you are not obligated for that weekend. Why can she not take the kids with her? Thats part of being a parent. Hell, I dont even get to go to the BATHROOM alone.

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Submitted by stepmom22boys on Wed, 06/27/2012 - 9:39am

She does this kind of shit all the time. This, however, is the first time she has ever said she was going to drop them off right before we get home and leave for the weekend.

DH has told her several times that he will take custody of the steps...all she has to do is sign the papers. BUT she wouldn't get HER child support then. :sick:

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Submitted by hereiam on Wed, 06/27/2012 - 9:57am

So, ultimately, she is responsible for them, but like you stated, "I honestly don't think DH will get on the plane knowing the steps are sitting on our front porch" and you can bet BM knows this!

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Submitted by stepmom22boys on Wed, 06/27/2012 - 10:13am

I am getting on that plane--with or without DH! Wink I might even enjoy my time a little more if he stays home. We attended an out of town wedding this past weekend and were gone for a total of four days. During those four days, BM sent him 214 text. Needless to say, I really didn't enjoy the little time I had with my family because she was always texting him.

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Submitted by hereiam on Wed, 06/27/2012 - 10:17am

"BM sent him 214 text"

:jawdrop: In sixteen years, my husband has not communicated this much with his ex! What is her problem? Oh, never mind, dumb question.