BM and BF went to mediation last Sunday. BM was 20 plus minutes late for the session she scheduled and did not even bother to call the meditor to tell her she would be late. BF wants joint custody and equal time with BS 9 months. The mediator asked BM why she wanted sole custody and her answer was because I am his mother. So, BF is his father. BM claimed she was sick for a week over leaving BS with BF for a week trip out of state. If it bothered her so much she should not have gone. I have never left my kids that long, ever. BM started complaining right away how expensive BS is to care for so the mediator asked her for a break down - $200 a month for diapers, $52 per can for formula(mediator said I think is more like half that, yeah right and he was breastfed for the first 6 months so she says), health insurance, gas to drive baby to daycare (that he does not start for 2 weeks), clothes (which are alwasy too small when we get him), etc. Strange, I have had 3 kids and never spent $200 a month on diapers. BM must be changing his diaper hourly or wrapping his butt in gold. BF pointed out that, if BM was so broke, she should not have bought a brand new car, laptop, new furniture, taken a six day trip out of state, and moved out of her house, where she is still paying the mortgage, and moving in with her boyfriend in a townhouse thats like 2 grand a month rent. BF told the mediator that he offered BM $200 a month until things were settled and she refused. The mediator asked her why she refused and BM said she thought it would set a precident and she would not get more.

BM freaked out on BF because we did a background check on BM's new boyfriend and he is still married and has 2 domestic assaults on his record in a years time. He pleaded guilty to the first one and is still on probation. The second one he goes to trial on in a month or so. BM said she should get a restraining order on BF for looking into her life. BF is concerned for the safety of his child. The mediator told BM if they have to go to court that her BF's past will be brought up.

BM agreed that BF could have BS this weekend Friday to Monday but when I picked him up on Friday BM said something had come up and she would need him back on Sunday. I told her she would have to talk to BF. The something is a meeting at 6:30 pm on Monday and we are pretty flexible about when we drop off and pick up. So 3 emails later BM agrees we can keep baby until Monday as planned and I will drop him off at 4pm. Just because you forgot does not mean BF should be shorted time that was agreed upon a week prior.