help!!!

I need help! I got married a week ago...supposed to be some of the happiest days of my life. Instead i have a 10 year old step daughter that acts like shes possessed everytime she gets upset. Her dad was gone and i needed to go to the grocery store and she flipped out because she told me she didn't want to go. I tried to talk to her and she continues to scream and tell me how much she hates me. I don't know how to handle her. She has no respect for me or anything i have to say unless its in her favor. Advice please!!! Help!! What do u do with a kid who doesn't listen? I told her to go to her room and she won't. Shes too old to carry so there is nothing i can do. I'm at a complete loss!!!

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He went to run a couple

He went to run a couple errands for about an hour. should be back shortly but this is rediculous. There is no reason she should be ok to stay with me for a few minutes while he's gone with out a full on fit!! we've been together 3 1/2 years and this has just started over the past 6 months or so. I know she's going through a lot of transition right now but there is no way this attitude is going to fly! Has anyone ever gotten professional help for their kids for anger management and to cope with a parent remarrying? I'm I blowing this out of proportion or should we give it a shot?

Thanks! Ya she needs to learn

Thanks! Ya she needs to learn her actions have consequences. And actually I am the bread winner in the family too. Sometimes doing EVERYTHING just gets exhausting. I know it sounds stupid but just a little appreciation from the SD would go a LONG way!

She does have a mom but she basically abandoned her. She's been with us full time for about 3 months. Her mom has seen her once during that time for a couple hours on mothers day until she left her off at her mom's house for us to come pick up so she could go out with her boyfriend.

I'm sure alot of her issues with her mom are being taken out on me but I don't know how to handle it or correct the situation.

keep water in the fridge.

keep water in the fridge. nice and cold. When she starts acting crazy, let her father handle it if possible, but if he's not there and you absolutely can't ignore it, splash ice cold water in her face. It is not harmful or abusive, won't do permanent damage, but has a shock value that many kids hate.

i advise against this. this

i advise against this. this child seems to be out of control with her emotions. is she violent at all? even just throwing things or kicking/hitting walls when angry? slamming doors? i would not advise throwing cold water in her face because if she is already in a rage, she may react, even after the 'shock' of the water.

plus, what would her father say? i have disciplined in creative ways early on in the relationship, and bf disagreed with them all. talk with your husband, ask him what he finds as appropriate ways for u to discipline, OR tell him u wont be left alone with her.

What would her father say?

What would her father say?
Well, maybe he shouldn't have put you in charge of the kid if he doesn't like the way you discipline ...and maybe he should teach her a little respect for you...and maybe he should take her with him on his errands and see if she throws a fit then!

What would her father say?

Thanks everyone. Her father

Thanks everyone. Her father completely supports me and any discipline he decided on. Teaching her to respect me is the hard part. He has had many talks with here and disciplines her when she is disrespectful infront of him but she still acts that way when hes not here. Shes learned to respect me when hes around. Its just when hes not that things happen.

Then she goes with dad.

I have a really good

I have a really good suggestion & it did wonders for me with my SS10. When he would act nutso when his dad would go, I started to video him with my cell phone. Then when he tried to lie to my DH- I played the video for DH infront of him. Has woked tremendously for me. Also works for other things like hanging all over him or taking pics of weird behaviours.

Do you have a cell phone or camera that takes video?

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