Well, my DH and BM were never married. Their relationship was a one night stand gone terribly, terribly wrong. Their entire relationship lasted a whole 5 months - and that included the time trying to make it work BECAUSE she was pregnant.

HOWEVER, I totally see your point and agree. It was such a weird move for her to make. Kind of like a childish, "na na na na na na" moment. Like, "We got married before you!" Um... ok.

She says this guy screams all the time. Um, yeah. No sh*t. She's a useless "mother." All she is, is like a "friend" to those kids. Which is why I was complaining that she dyed SD10's hair fire engine red. The hair dying, in and of itself, is no big deal. It's the fact that she treats SD10 as though she is already 16yrs old and allows her to do LOTS of things that are beyond her years. SD10 thinks she is "soooo" grown. Her older sister (not my DH's child), when I met her - she was 12 years old - but I thought she was 17 or 18 and about to graduate from High School. I, literally, almost fell out of my chair. The girl had so much make-up on, hair dyed and streaked, booty shorts, low-cut top showing off her breasts, etc. I almost died when I realized that she is younger than MY son - whom is still so much a chid in so many ways (especially sexually). So when BM starts doing stuff like dying SD10's hair, or giving her make-up to wear, I freak out.

Can't we, as a society, just let out little girls be little girls anymore? Can't we teach them that they are more than their vagina? That they have REAL power that has nothing to do with their ability to FLIRT or F*CK their way through life? OMG. I'm going to have a stroke...

Anyway, back to the divorce:

I'm really worried that when she is no longer distracted, she's going to focus over here. However, like it's been suggested: we won't let her get to us.

BUT, now that I know this: I now understand why she started going to Bible classes and going to church, or looking at returning to school.

She did the same thing when my DH was trying to get full custody (rightfully so considering her drug abuse and neglect of the kids) of the twins. She all of a sudden turned into a saint. The judge is a gender biased ass and allowed her to keep the kids. But in order to prove how *awesome* she is, she started going to church, got baptized, and had her photo taken for the church newsletter. She's not been back to that church since the judge revoked the FOC's decision to give full custody of the twins to their father. She also started taking classes at a community college and talked about how she wanted to be a "brain surgeon." Yeah, a "brain surgeon." WTF. IN ADDITION, she also married some dude to make herself look like she could provide a stable home for the kids. She divorced him within a month from the closing of the custody case - but not before she had him drain his retirement account to help her pay her legal fees.

Yeah, that's the kind of *prize* our BM is.

She makes me sick.

^ AMEN!!!!!!