My not so Dh calls BM's phone today and she picks up...I am in the other room and I can hear her screaming into the phone! She immediately starts BITCHING - They are SO annoying! They WILL NOT listen! (We already went through this last week.) DH says, "Great where are they and Well - they are little girls...if they aren't listening - do something about it - we don't have many issues here anymore really because we discipline them." SHE HANGS UP ON HIM!!!!!

He calls back three times...she refuses to answer and then sends him a text..."Right now I am in the middle of telling your kids how much of a douchebag their father is - and how you don't even WANT to see them 24 hours a week - I have an idea - how about you keep them for two weeks at a time and then you be a REAL father..."

I walked into the room to him just staring at his phone with tears in his eyes...He doesn't have them just for the weekend because he wants to...stupid Bm - doesn't she know he can't quit his job? Doesn't she know if he does quit...no more CS and he will go to jail because he won't be able to pay it? Unfortunately - this is what happens when people get divorced - she wanted custody - she wanted them to live with her - he let that happen...because "girls should be with their mother" that's what everyone said. this is what she gets. If the girls are annoying it's because she has raised them to be. She has raised them to be disrespectful...I decided to step in and I typed out a whole text...I showed it to him - he then said forward it to him...I did...I took out the part where I mentioned I'm not a parent but I've been here helping with them for 5 years...I was pretty decent and I was shaking so bad trying not to just send it myself: I NEVER step in but at some point - I have to say something to HER. I'm tired of her stomping all over him like his own mother does. It said:

I know you are frustrated. I am too. I'd like to have them more too. Work does not allow me to do that. Talking about me like that is not how to deal with this situation. If you are having issues with them...REAL issues - MORE than they are just getting on your nerves you need to address them and WE will deal with it together. They have been through ALOT - don't you think so? Maybe they are acting out due to all of the changes they are going through. That is no excuse for their behavior but you need to put yourself in their shoes too. And address me about real issues at hand that we can work on!"

No response...I WANT to say what I did in my last post to her...maybe if she wouldn't MOVE them 5 times a year they wouldn't be having such a hard time!!! I JUST WANT TO SCREAM! And of course she never did reply or let them call their father back.

Could this be PAS????? We saved the toxic texts from her in case we need them down the road. Let the documenting begin! (7 years too late...)