We have had some MAJOR issues with BOTH sd's lately. Only because we had to cut our visitations down due to DH's work schedule - they are both in school - so it's ALOT harder to work out scheduling...this is changing soon.

Anyway - everytime they are here it seems like DH and I are CONSTANTLY fighting...if we are having issues and he needs to knock it off - I pull him away from the kids into our bedroom and knock some sense into him (with words of course...especially after the spaghetti disaster - refer to old posts) He calls them every night and talks to them with so much love (sometimes makes me ill) but when they are here he's like a wild animal!

So when the girls come - they forget they are not allowed to roll eyes here or talk back...of course - I am MUCH calmer now and I've learned that if you IGNORE that behavior for the first 3 hours they are here - they see you aren't going to pay any attention and remember - I only reward good behavior...DH - not so easily done. He literally SPAZZES and just starts yelling - this happened the other day - I got SO frustrated I just went into the bedroom and BROKE down...This NEVER happens and the girls have NEVER seen me cry...EVER. I forgot to lock the door - and SD10 comes in...she sees me - and just throws her arms around me!!! We've NEVER had a moment like that EVER....She's the one that really makes the hair on the back of my neck stand up - so I tell her - (now she's crying - maybe she realized I am actually a person too?) - everything is going to be okay - and we are making MAJOR adjustments and her dad is just very frustrated because he forgets how tough it is for you and your sister - (they've been through HELL with their mother) - I tell her we are going to get our scheduling back on track and it's going to really help her and her sister - and her dad won't miss her so much and everything will be alright - and she smiles real big and says, "Okay Unbelieveable - things are going to change! We are ALL going to get along! And we can't WAIT to be here more with you and daddy!" I told her I really do love her - We just all need to pull together - and to just go get her dad and send him in....

He comes in and sees me - And I reminded him that he's NOT the only one that's frustrated and he just NEEDS to remember that these girls are living under one house with NO rules and with us who DO have rules - he quickly changed his tune - hugged me and said he was thankful for everything I do - and he was GREAT the rest of the weekend!!!!!!

Now - I will post more on Thursday - cross your fingers that major changes are happening - I can't say much now because I don't want to jinx myself!!!