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Booty Shake Help!

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Submitted by audi_coupe.tt on Mon, 04/09/2012 - 10:19am

My SD6 thinks it’s cute to lay on the floor put her butt in the air while shaking it and wiggling it around while giggling and looking at anyone who will look in her direction. Both her dad and I constantly get on to her for this behavior, but no matter the discipline she continues to do it. We’ve tried spanking, taking away toys and privileges, writing lines, corner, making her leave the room, verbal reprimand, and the list goes on. I think it’s all about seeking attention, but I find it extremely inappropriate, and I just don’t know how to get her to stop it. She’ll do it in the living room while the kids are watching TV and she tries to get her brother to look. What do I do to stop this behavior? We’ve explained this isn’t something a lady or a little girl needs to be doing.

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Submitted by AndSoItIs on Mon, 04/09/2012 - 10:25am

Maybe try deliberately ignoring her? If its for attention, and she isn't getting any it's sure to stop. I find sometimes with my SD5(6 in a few days) that when she's doing something to get attention she doesn't care what kind of attention she's getting be it negative or positive so by reprimanding her in any fashion for her bahavior she's kind of getting exactly what she wants.

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Submitted by knucklehead on Mon, 04/09/2012 - 10:27am

I'd ignore her. She's doing it to get a reaction, and it's working.
BTW, I think it's normal for little kids to do silly stuff for attention...I can't believe she got spanked for it. Sad

Just pretend she isn't even there when she starts. It will lose its appeal after awhile.

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Submitted by oneoffour on Mon, 04/09/2012 - 10:32am

You pick her up and take her out of the room and tell her that she must be overtired and it is time for a nap/bed. If it is 2pm, naptime. If it is 6pm, bedtime. She may not come out until you say so. And I would make her stay in her room in the afternoon for at least 45 mins and in the evening, overnight.

Yes, it is attention seeking and not appropriate. This kind of behaviour modification comes to you today from Dr John Rosemond. Well, I guess this is what he would say.

Don't make a fuss about her screaming or her behaviour. She is tired. Done deal. Act calmly and normally. Pick her up and off to her room she goes. Isolating her from her audience will stop it. And in a calmer moment ask her where she learnt to do that. Someone ay have seen a few too many MTV rap videos.

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Submitted by LilyBelle on Mon, 04/09/2012 - 10:32am

Ditto what everyone else said....

But it's sometimes hard to get the other kids to ignore.

If this is an issue, talk to other kids when booty shaker isn't around. Let them know they will be rewarded for ignoring it. So she shakes her booty, gets ignored, and everyone who ignored gets a treat.....

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Submitted by LilyBelle on Mon, 04/09/2012 - 10:34am

Or, you could try aversion. Make a big huge deal of it. Have her put on a booty shake show after dinner and have everyone whoop and hollar and clap and have her do it for a long time until she gets tired of it. I would try the ignoring first.