On the topic of equal gifting...
For those of you with more than one bio kid, do you always give them all gifts when you give a gift to one?
I have 6 between my bios and steps. I have 3 bios, DS12, DD8, and DD2. I'm due in a week with baby DD.
Sometimes I see something that one of the children would particularly enjoy, and I go ahead and pick up the item and give it to the cild later. Not just for my bios...I do it for my steps too. They're all VERY different, and enjoy different things. If I bought something for all the kids every time I bought something for one, it would financially cripple us!
Do you all ever just see something and get it for only the child that is "into" whatever that is?
Or say, for example, clothes...do you ever notice that one kid's wardrobe is getting a little thin, so you pick out a few new staples for that kid, or take them on a shopping trip, but you don't take everyone, because only the one kid needs stuff?
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I don't worry about it, and I
I don't worry about it, and I don't have bio children. My SD has far more clothes than my SS. She's a girl. SS has a lot more video games than SD. It just is what it is. Sometimes I take the girl shopping for a special thing for good behavior or whatever so she gets stuff then. The boy chooses to go to the arcade or to play laser tag for his special treat instead. I don't think I'd worry too much about it unless one of them starts whining and even then I'd use the old adage- life isn't always fair.
Amen to that!!!! I'm the same
Amen to that!!!! I'm the same way-except I'm the one that buys ECERYTHING!! Clothes, shoes, hair accessories, toys ect....so SD's birthday present should be interesting this year...
I stupidly broke myself on making sure ALL kids had a GREAT Christmas...equal gifts n everything on their lists to Santa....mainly because u didn't want an argument with DH even though ur was MY sons ONLY Christmas n the spoiled entitled lil shits get at least three others...n I mean FULL Christmas' by BM, BM's mom n BM's boyfriends family...so before Christmas I overhear my SS telling my Bioson that they (skids) r basically better than him because they get so many moreChristmas' n they have XYZ amount of people buying them gifts...N NOW they get gifts from his family too n he doesn't have anyone else buying him anything!! N I somehow refrained from jumping his butt...but I did after that take every single thing that my family bought the lil ingrate n give it to my son...lil shit! But that is off topic-sorry!so after they see everything Santa left n open all their presents n empty their stockings...u know what the lil Twit has the nerve to say! "we should go n check outside to see if Santa got us anything else because last year we got a trampoline at BM's!!!!" my immediate response was, "Or maybe we can go drop off every SINGLE thing u DID just get to a less fortunate child!!! Since u r being SO ungrateful!!!! Seriously do u have any idea how much money *i* spent on u for u to make a comment like that?!?!?!?" ugh....after that....I'm not buying SH**!!!! I take that back...I might get him a matchbox car for his birthday...those r like a dollar, right?? Ugh!!! I'm still pissed about that! Ha! My SD is actually grateful...but after she came over n informed me "Mommy said its u n Daddy's turn for my Birthday...so I want XYZ n either here or here or here...I haven't decided!!" I said like hell!! She has paid for it n planned it 2years n a row n the only reason she started was because I threw her the very first party she ever had for her 4th birthday!! Not to mention those r her only two kids....DH has 5!!! U greedy heffer u receive more in child support than we pay for our mortgage!!! Manage ur money better n pay for ur own damn daughters party!!! Uve only had a whole year to save for it!!! Ugh!!!
Goodness I was frustrated...sorry! Think I'll go get a drink now...I got myself all worked up! Ha!
i do it, too. and i think
i do it, too. and i think it's ridiculous when every kid gets a gift on one of the kids birthdays. a birthday is supposed to be your own special day, it shouldn't have to be shared with siblings/stepsiblings. they need to accept that not every birthday is about them. everyone gets the day once a year and no one shares it.
If I see something for my
If I see something for my bio's or SO'd kids and I want to get it I don't heck think I've gotten several random items for my DD recently and nothing for my DS and haven't heard a complaint.
NO! But I have taught my bios
NO! But I have taught my bios at an extremely young age that it doesn't work that way. BUT....
I DO keep a mental tally. So I try to make sure if I buy for one, the next time I "see" something it is for the other one. Neither kid has ever had an issue with this.
LOL. This post reminds me of
LOL. This post reminds me of my childhood. My poor Mom. Mom and I have the same tastes on pretty much anything and my little sister is the polar opposite (to the point where I pick on my Mom that she must've been doing the milkman). Anyway, Mom will go out shopping, find stuff that reminds her of me and buy it for me, but god forbid my sister find out about it. She's wig. This still goes on 20 plus years later, (we are 30 and 28, me being the oldest) even though her husband makes bank at his job and my husband and I live pay check to pay check. If she goes to see my Mom, she expects to be taken shopping, etc. I don't, but Mom always seems to have something waiting on me because we are so similar.
With the kids, surprisingly SD is the one that favors me the most, so when I'm out, I find stuff for SD. I can never find anything for SS (I'm not in tune to boys I suppose). My BD is fairly easy to buy for but I actually have to look. But yes, I'll take BD to go get new clothes independently. Then maybe the next month it'll be SD who needs new shoes. They don't care.