been getting my stepdaughters every weekend and now getting them 2 days a week because mom is pregnant and cant handle 5 kids at once so she has 2 oldest go to there dads (my spouse) and i am pregnant (10 weeks) and extremely tired. my SD just dont listen, they leave dirty clothes, brushed, hair, and wet towels all over the bathroom floor. I have to tell them every time to pick it up. they go in there and pick up one thing and walk out. so i have to tell them again, to pick up everything. i get to the point where im yelling at them because they dont listen. the oldest lies about having no homework, when i check her school assignments online and teacher says she does. she claims to have already finished it. and yet the next day teacher puts MI for missing because she didnt turn it in. we bought the oldest a journal for christmas and i havent seen it til recently and i had just opened it to see if she had even written in it. i read one sentence and i couldnt believe what i saw! "im so fed up, Laura is a "blah" im so tired of her telling me what to do. thank god my dad knows how i feel, because i couldnt talk to anyone."(the SDs do not curse, and are very well behaved..usually) now let me tell you something, there mother doesnt do anything for them. im talking about, nothing!! girls arnt aloud to go to friends house, not aloud to have bday parties, not aloud to cut there hair, spends no money on taking them anywhere. we (spouse and i) do everything for them. Take them on family vacations, buy them presents for bdays/christmas. cut there hair, invite friends over. and i get talked about like this??? the girls constantly talk bad about there mom. how they cant even ask her questions bc she tells them to leave her alone. or how they have school projects and there mom wont take them to get the materials needed. she wont even take them to school functions like tutoring or saturday school because she doesnt want to get up. she is a sad excuse for a mother and i get treated for being nice to my SDs?? i dont understand. i grew up with a stepfather and didnt even know my dad, and yes i had problems, but not like this. they beg to live with us, they never want to go home. yet the oldest is writing about me like that in her journal??? yes, i did go back and read the entire thing...and i was so upset because its a daily thing where she wrote about me. i have been these girls stepmother since they were 2 and 4. they are now 10 and 12 and i dont know if i can handle much more. theres so much more...i would be here all day if wrote everything!!!!